Ok, so my brother is living with the mother of his kids (they divorced but got back together). I am married and have two kids. My sister has two kids, is not married, lives with my parents. Thanksgiving will be at my parents' house.

I had to write a bio up for work about myself, my work experiences, my personal life. Without even thinking about it, I wrote I had a husband and two kids (our two bios together). I didn't even consider SD20, she never crossed my mind. I sent the bio to DH to see what he thought, and that is when I realized I didn't include SD. Now I'm wondering if he will be mad/upset. He knows how I feel about her (disdain mostly).

So do the rest of you consider your stepkids a part of your family?

I am anticipating this any day now from SD20, so I am just curious. Last year she included a few very inexpensive items, then, at the bottom, what she really wanted: Ugg boots.

Am I crazy in thinking that once you are an "adult," you stop giving daddy a list of things to buy you?

DH and BM went back to court when SD was 15, and both were ordered to pay 1/3 of SD's college costs up until she turns 21. DH has been doing this and more faithfully ever since, but SD20 totally takes advantage of it in my opinion. For example, she buys books at full price rather than used, then DH feels sorry for her and pays his 1/3 plus her 1/3. There were two books alone this semester at $225 a pop! Or she decided to take summer school classes and HAD to live in the dorms to do that, despite her college being in the same town as both BM and BM's mom.