UGH.... No clue what SD19 is up to.
Saturday night, out of the blue, DH tells me that SD wants to come and stay with us for the summer (she's currently in college in a different state) and work at the little convenient store in our rural, Podunk town. DH said he already talked to the lady that he is "friendly" with there (pretty sure he doesn't even know her name) and she said that they do sometimes hire people for a couple months at a time. Whatever. DH acts like he can just walk in there upon SD's glorious arrival and she'll have a job easy peasy. DH also said SD might be getting a waitressing job shortly, near campus because she met some guy who is the manager and he told her she could have a job. She asked him if she needed to fill out an application and he told her that she could just write stuff down on sticky notes and give it to him. Again. Whatever. DH tells me all of this, like she is the second coming of Christ...and it bugs me. We all know how much she lies and manipulates every fucking word that comes out of her mouth. Yet DH falls for it over and over again.
Anyway, my hackles were immediately raised. Why you ask? Well because before SD went to college, she was working at a large beauty chain store near Aunt J and they let her come back and work over her Christmas break. SD's boyfriend goes to the same college she does and lives in the same neighborhood as Aunt J. I'm a stalker and have been for years. So I know that SD Twitter is always open for everyone's reading enjoyment UNTIL she is knee deep in some type of drama with someone.. then she makes it private. Well 1 week ago, her Twitter suddenly became private, then she's apparently calling DH and telling him she wants to come here for the summer, away from her BF, and work at a dang gas station/convenient store, rather than work at her beauty store? All I can think of is WHY? There has to be some self serving motive here. I just can't figure out what it is and it's going to drive me bonkers.
I am just hoping and praying that things change between now and May and that she keeps herself there in Aunt J state during summer break. I know I shouldn't be complaining about having to deal with her for 2 months, sure 2 months is nothing in the big scheme of things.. but she has proven time and time again that she can't be somewhere without drama ensuing and I am enjoying my drama free life. Oh and of course SD's name has not been mentioned in my house in months... probably since she left in a shitstorm last summer. Yet DH bringing her name up, IMMEDIATELY causes grief. Like, he doesn't really want her here either??? I have no clue, all I know is that he tells me about her wanting to come Saturday night and then on Sunday morning, he is yelling at me because the garage door where my car is, was up 6 inches further than he thought it should be, and dontcha know that makes us look like trash, and why can't you put it all the way down, you're just lazy, blah blah blah. Which of course is rich coming from the man, who pussy footed around SD when she lived with us and wouldn't make a peep about her pig hole of a room, with used tampons and pads, piles of dirty clothes, burn marks in the carpet, food, dirty dishes etc. Oh but the fucking garage door is the end of the world... and it's only because HER name was uttered. It's like some bad juju or black magic or something... UGH.
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I don't know??? That was my
I don't know??? That was my first guess.. but her profile pic on FB is still a lovey one of her and him, and she still has all her pics of her and him on Insta. Maybe she's just delaying the inevitable?? I have no clue!
DaizyD - you know she's
DaizyD - you know she's softening DH up to move in..... not only for summer....
put your foot down woman and say, sure but only if she has a 45 hour job in these parts...
but I truly hope she does not come
"No". This is a complete
"No". This is a complete sentence.
Your DH needs a knot jerked in his tail first of all for the garage door incident.
Secondly. Again NO she cannot live with you for the summer.
Perhaps she is flunking out of school. Maybe she is pregnant and planning to move her and boyfriend in. Maybe she is running from the law. Who cares. She is an adult. She burned her bridge with living in your house. Seriously what is this with leaving used feminine products anywhere but wrapped in the thrash? I read that so much on here and just ....seriously what is that?
DH can go live with her somewhere for two months. And longer. Change the locks while he is gone.
It will not go well. MSD30 live here for five weeks in spring 2012. It was hell. She told lie after lie. She ranted and raved at her dad. She shunned me in my own home. I had to go on anxiety meds to deal with it. I had to push to get her out into an apt that we paid for the deposit and first month. I am still dealing with issues from that time and totally estranged from all three adult SD's . I do not fully trust my DH to not throw me under the bus in regards to them. It is sad and never going to be the happy family he or I wanted.
So just say no and stand on that hill!
Well DH and I have agreed
Well DH and I have agreed that we don't mind her staying with us for a "visit" But my idea of a visit is like a couple day stay at Christmas time or something! NOT a 2 MONTH stay. She stayed with us last summer because Aunt J got her a summer camp job in our state.. but it wasn't bad, because she was always away at camp. I think she was actually in my house maybe 6 days total and it was spread out over the 2 months so it wasn't bad. She actually kept the room clean and the bathroom she was using clean and I was pretty impressed... but again. It was only 6 days spread out over 60.
She doesn't have a DL yet, but does have a permit and last summer when she was home, she tried to get her DL in our state (that is where her permit was issued) but couldn't get an appointment for her road test during the time she was here. I'm CERTAIN she's going to expect to get her DL and be driving one of our cars which I am NOT happy about either.
Again, I can not stress myself about this 5 months in advance. I just need to pray every night from now until then, that something better will come up and she will stay put!
"she met some guy who is the
"she met some guy who is the manger and he told her she could have a job. She asked him if she needed to fill out an application and he told her that she could just write stuff down on sticky notes and give it to him"
Is SD good looking? Sounds like a sugar daddy setup to me.
Yeah sounds like she and boyfriend are on the outs.
Can a little birdy tell the mgr of the local convenience store what a slacker SD is?
I'd break out the salt and sage.
Yes, SD is a pretty girl and
Yes, SD is a pretty girl and she is a psychopath with excellent charming skills. When she made the GoFund me begging for 5000.00 for her family for funeral expenses for GBM, she managed to get some college kid to donate $500.00! She only got a grand total of a little over $1,000.00 and the whole clan shared and shared the stupid GoFund me on FB until it couldn't be shared anymore.. so what does that tell you. People who know them, know better. But yep, SD charmed some random kid that she just met at college with her psychopath abilities to donate 500.00.
I have a problem with crowd
I have a problem with crowd funding. I think it is low class. Well at least I don't have to worry about Dominatrix picking up sugar daddies (you know what I mean).
Does she have a secured full
Does she have a secured full time summer job in your area?
NO! According to DH she
NO! According to DH she wants to work at the dinky convenient store/gas station in our town... but she's never worked there before. DH is acting like because he talked to the lady he sees there all the time when he stops in and she said that they do hire people for a couple of months, that it's some kind of done deal. :? It's a big chain of convenient stores with a cooperate, I'm quite certain they have a hiring process and don't just hire everyone who is looking for a job and certainly don't hire people if they don't actually need them. That's another thing that worries me. I know the way the two of them operate. They'll wait til the last minute, cause you know, everyone can't wait for the opportunity to behold SD!!!! and she'll be here doing NOTHING for 2 months! :O
If she wants a job at the gas
If she wants a job at the gas station she can put in an application now if it is a chain store. Just list her avail dates on the application. If she wants drivers license test she can schedule that well ahead of time. If she wants to drive your car...no. If DH has a car for her to drive...she pays her own insurance. How far is this gas station from your house? How is she going to get to work and back?
If she does not get hired prior to summer then she does not live with you. Period. She should be looking for a job in her college town that she can keep some hours during the school year.
Sounds like she wants a free ride for the summer. Make up a list of chores you need done around the house for the summer. If she does not have a job she is your chore girl.
Can she go back to the summer camp and work this year?
Five months will go by quick. Make DH answer the hard questions now so he rethinks this crazy plan.
She quit the summer camp job
She quit the summer camp job last year.. one week before she would have been done. So, no, she can't go back there. the only reason she got that job is because Aunt J did everything for her. The gas station is about 7 miles from our house, so DH doesn't mind driving her there and back, but that is the ONLY gig in town. If she doesn't get job there, the closest other town to get a job in is about 15 miles away and DH will be pissed about having to drive her back and forth twice a day and that would also be a big IF she were able to get a job there. After that, the next closest town would be about 25 miles away, she could almost surely get a job there as there is a shopping mall, huge shopping center, tons of restaurants etc. But again, DH would NOT agree to cart her ass back and forth every day. He'd rather have her sitting on her ass, then have to be responsible to cart her entitled ass around. I don't want EITHER!
I kind of DON'T want to harp on DH about it, because I know his MO. If I say nothing, he will do nothing. So when the time gets closer like beginning of may, THEN I'll start asking DH what the plan is and I will INSIST that if she doesn't have a job lined up, that she is not staying with us. I'm not having a rerun of the pig hole hell when she lived with us!!
noooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!
noooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!
I mean, your list of crap she would have to follow would have to be a mile long! like don't steal my clothes, don't leave rotted food and pads in your room, and actually use toilet paper!