More and more SD17 nonsense

Had a long conversation with Aunt J yesterday. She said that last weekend, SD wanted to go to some overnight party at a girls house of which she did not even know the last name of. Aunt J, told her no. She told her she could go, but that she had to be home by 12:30 a.m and she would have to find a ride, because Aunt J was not going out for the 3rd time to get her. Well, apparently SD17 had a fit and trashed Aunt J on Twitter and FB and at school 3 days later, where Aunt J has many friends, who told her. SD17 was calling Aunt J a bitch, said she was just trying to replace her daughter that died 6 years ago with SD and other hurtful crap.

Aunt J also said that she had her first appointment with the therapist that SD17 has been seeing for about a month now. She said she walked in and the therapist lit into her about how she was too rigid, she needed to relax her thoughts on teen sex, she was impossible to please, on and on... all while SD17 sat there and said not a peep. Aunt J said therapist was fired and she just can't wait for SD to graduate and be gone. She seriously knows the exact number of days. Another bridge burned.

I went to get my hair done last night (by SIL #2) and we were chatting and she said that Aunt J had text her and SIL3 and MIL about the SD incident last weekend.... and SIL was defending SD???? She was like "Oh she's a kid, that's what teenagers do, SD17 doesn't know what to do to please Aunt J, it's because of BM and GBM upbringing etc" I got kind of pissed and said yeah, I get that teenagers act dumb but how long does SD17 get a free pass for shitty behavior because BM/GBM suck? Her employer isn't going to give a crap about that, if she goes to college, they aren't going to give a crap about that. She's going to 18 in 5 months! Of course EVERYTHING that SIL was saying is straight outta MILs mouth... trust me I've heard all the excuses before. Maybe SD can go live with MIL since MIL is such a big fan? She's seriously running out of bridges to burn and people who aren't on to her shit.

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I know I felt bad for her

I know I felt bad for her too! When she emailed me, she was like "Sorry to go on and on, I just needed to vent" I told her to vent away that I knew what it was like to feel like the horrible person who could do no right and that I had nobody to talk to about it when it was happening to me and that I found a lovely group of stepmothers that saved my sanity!

Seriously? Aunt J needs to

Seriously? Aunt J needs to relax her attitude on teen sex? From a counsellor... that she's paying for? IN FRONT OF SD?

50 shades of ridiculous.

That's what I said! I can't

That's what I said! I can't believe that a therapist would sit there and VALIDATE SD17 like that! I mean maybe I could see if the therapist wanted to chew Aunt J out AFTER she sent SD out of the room, but I about croaked when she said that SD was sitting there for the whole ass chewing saying nothing :O

I'll pitch in for a bus

I'll pitch in for a bus ticket.

That is Aunt J's concern!

That is Aunt J's concern! She said she had many "nice" talks with SD17 over the past year, about birth control and asked her if she maybe needed to get some etc. SD17 lied through her liar hole as usual and told her she was not having sex blah blah.. same shit she spewed to DH. Then.. oh my! SD thinks she might have an STD! And it all comes out that she has been having sex since she was living with us!

I'm telling you, as much as everyone wants to try and fight it, this girls is going to turn out JUST exactly like BM1. The genetics are too strong and "you can't change someone who doesn't see an issue with their actions" (as seen on pinterest) And SD thinks that EVERYONE ELSE is the problem, it's ALWAYS someone else's fault.

Aunt J should have told her

Aunt J should have told her that she couldn't come close to replacing that daughter. Not within miles. I would've slapped her, then the therapist then told sd to get the F out.

Relax her thoughts on teen

Relax her thoughts on teen sex??

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so glad Aunt J canned this therapist's ass. Don't forget, my sister/cousin Loony is also a therapist. There are lots of bad ones out there.

Right? And honestly Aunt J

Right? And honestly Aunt J was not THAT concerned with the fact that SD17 was having sex... she was more concerned with the fact that she's been bold faced lying about it for 3 years now and leaving herself open to get pregnant, STDs etc.

But whatever...I forgot to mention that Aunt J said she had to quit her volunteering "job" that she's been doing for the past SEVENTEEN years, because they don't trust SD in the house alone. Uncle J also does not feel comfortable ever being alone with SD because she lies so much... so the man who works his ass off and pays all the bills and allows SD17 to live in their beautiful home, gets to feel uncomfortable in his own home... nice.

No offense taken. Yes, DH

No offense taken. Yes, DH pays CS to Aunt J. and honestly this was ALL Aunt J.'s idea. She offered, DH took her up on the offer because she was wreaking havoc in our home. Aunt J went into this, thinking that a. SD just needed to get far enough away from BM/GBM that she couldn't run off to them every time she didn't like a consequence that DH was meting out. b. that she just needed to get SD away from me because the consensus was that I was being too insensitive and not loving enough to SD and that if she just had a "chance" she could do better

It took about 2 or 3 months of SD17 living with Aunt J, for her to see the issues and for her to see that the ONLY problem in the equation is SD. I should also note that the first time SD moved in with us, she lasted about 2 months. Her and DH had a spat over something stupid and she ran back to BMs. DH told her if she didn't come back that night that she could stay there. She called him names, refused to come back, so DH loaded all of her shit and dropped it at BMs. They didn't speak for like 6 months. During that time, she conned some friend of hers to let her live with them so she could continue to go to the school in our district (BM lived in a different district) that lasted 2 months and ended on VERY bad terms. I am actually friends with the mother who let her live there and she was heartbroken just like Aunt J is... her exact words were "We treated her like family, like gold and she just used us" SD moved back with BM but didn't go to school for 2 months. Then DH got the whining, begging call for her to come back and live with us and he caved. That time it lasted a little over a year..... of HELLLLL! then she went to Aunt J.'s.

Wow - poor Aunt J. She

Wow - poor Aunt J. She sounds like a really great person.

Why do these ungrateful skids like your SD and ASS think they can just shit all over people?

It's so maddening, isn't it??