Bath Time
Holy crap!!
I left the living room and on my way back DP was yelling, really yelling!, at SD11 to get in the shower NOW!
SD11: but it's 9:00!
DP: we discussed this earlier and it's not too late. Shower now. You stink!
(I think my mouth fell open at this point)
SD11, storming by me yelling at DP: Well you smell too!
Door slam, shower starts.
What just happened? Apparently DP and SD9 were in car with SD11 stinking it up. DP said he had to roll down the windows just to tolerate it. She hadn't showered since at our place on Saturday. He also told her she needs to get rid of her old boots and he'd buy her new ones (foot stink a problem too), but she refused (That was surprising since she's been asking me for new boots...with no results of course). I think he may make her wear her good sneakers tomorrow and throw the boots away.
It was outstanding!!! I was giddy!!
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Yeah hubby!!!! He earned some
Yeah hubby!!!! He earned some bed time fun tonight.
Men can be so clueless on
Men can be so clueless on little girls (and on teens Dad's head just seems to go totally empty). His daughter is becoming to have sweat glands that he, she (and perhaps BM) hasn't had to deal with before.
yeah, maybe SD could get away with bathing once or twice when she was seven. She's eleven now. Period is right around the corner along with underarm hair blah blah. Dad needs to talk to her about 'why' she stinks and 'why' it's important now to keep herself much cleaner than before.
Not to bad mouth your DH, but yours sounds a bit behind in his 'I have to be the parent here because BM isn't here to do the girly things for me and it's not SM's job or responsibility' curve. If he (yes, probably because you have to push him) gets on top o this now and SD learns and understands it's about becoming a little lady and who wants to have anyone think they stink, he might nip it before this kiddo is one o those 15/16yr olds we read about here with the hygiene from hell.
It's 9:00pm? Yeah? So what. It's never too late to make sure your body is fresh . If Sd needs more time, she needs to start early. You also don't want to nag the heck out of DH. From your last blog he seems to be getting this idea you think he's a failure at parenting and he's to blame yadda yadda. Help him out a bit without having to remind and nag him. Make him a schedule . Just for him, not the girls. One he can look at to remind him what the girls need to do/learn and how often. Then send him out to get a cheap basket and supplies for girl 'young lady stuff'. Shower gel, back brush, deodorant, maybe some talc powder, a shower puff, shampoo whatever. It's her very own girly basket. SD will likely need some instruction on amounts to use or she'll use half a bottle
It all may not work if SD is flat out lazy and uncaring about her body, but it may be worth a shot to try. SD sees you. Clean, non-smelly and girly sparkling. She's at the age where she could be guided into following your lead. Right now she has a Dad who is clueless and a BM who seems to be lacking in acknowledging her daughter is starting to stink. You may be the only hope these two girls have of learning appropriate hygiene by being the roll model and training Dad how to 'parent' his daughters. However, in dealing with Dh , you have to remember to try and guide him through it, not nag him through.
Just a thought.
I agree. I am following most
I agree. I am following most of this advice. Once we move both SDs are going to get to pick out their own soaps/towels and things. SD11 does come to me sometimes for personal things so she is aware. I think DP had his eyes opened last night! He did talk with her afterwards too which was good.
My SD13 finally showered
My SD13 finally showered yesterday morning, she waited since Saturday as well. I checked the bath gel bottle when I got home and she probably used a teaspoon. I told DH when he got home and we made her shower again. After giving her an 8-pack of bar soap. She thought we were kidding and then realized we weren't.
The look on her face was priceless. Poor wittle SD13.
Glad to hear your DH is stepping up, too! Yes, the car stinking up from a foul kid is just ridiculous!
~ Moon