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Sleeping arrangements??

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Do you still allow your kid/kids to sleep n bed with u & your DH ?? If not how old we're they when they stopped? And what ways did u transition ur child/children from your bed to theirs?? Tips? Advice? Our 4 yr old BD will start out n her bed upstairs but somehow between 3-6 am she finds her way back dwn into our room....as I type this DH has moved to he floor and even invited my SD7 to come lay with him down there. They are all sleep and I'm WIDE AWAKE... Due to insomnia & stress I don't sleep well anyway but this to him is nothing .

And I'm back......

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I took a hiatus from steptalk...just to see if the things I was complanning about were real issues or just frivolous vents for whatever reasons....well these are real issues that I am dealing with and this forum makes me realize, I'm not crazy after all lol. It's not me. I'm not an evil step mom that I claim to be. I can admit I may be a lil tougher on them but thats only bcuz of the slick shit my step kids do in front of my DH that makes me this way ....oh well I should just suck it up & roll with whatever punches they throw at me right. ??

Silence was my worse fear

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:? Sad I waited until my DH got settled in frm wrk & ate dinner, took shower etc before I spilled my guts...ok so I just poured all my issues (well the important ones anyway) cussed, cried & fussed at my DH bcuz im literally getting sick from the stress with my ss10 &12....and guess what .....
Crickets....no response. Just silence Sad omg

Are there rules to the "disengaging" from steps?

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Ok so when Dh & I are both home, I ignore my ss10&12. frankly they ignore me too, I let DH , do EVERYTHING for them & I care for our bio's ages 7,5&3. I observe how my ssons get away with so much!! Still I dont complain, or discipline them in no manner, half the time im.in my room away from all of the family...miserable right?! Im a SAHM and its kinda hard to "ignore" them when DH is at wrk frm 6am-7pm. Last night DH was sleep by 10pm, I was up in our bed & it had to be 11:30 or,latr & I hear my ssons laughing, talkn,joking VERY LOUDLY!

SS10 &12 ...miss their mom!

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My SS miss their mom & he problaly will get her visitation this summer regardless of how I feel about it...they are not doing good in school, they behavior at hm is not all tht great. So how should I tell my DH they can go see their mom & I dont want them.to come back? He will be pissed bcuz I have told him & I agree that he should never have to choose between me n his kids but we have 3 bioligical kids & my oldest is 14. No real problems outta him, jus my skids. Im suffocating with resentment!!! Plz help!!

Putting pride aside to get DH a Vday gift...ugh! Do I have to :/

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Ok I love finding the right vday card to express exactly what im feeling..not really n vday mood this yr due to the tension/stress surrounding major issues that he FAILS to address. So um yea...got a card anyway its sorta a tradition now (the card swap) ...hopefully since vday is also our BS bday, the bdau will over shadow the romance part, or lack there of... this holiday

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