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Putting pride aside to get DH a Vday gift...ugh! Do I have to :/

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Submitted by Chefwit8 on Mon, 02/13/2012 - 5:02pm

Ok I love finding the right vday card to express exactly what im feeling..not really n vday mood this yr due to the tension/stress surrounding major issues that he FAILS to address. So um yea...got a card anyway its sorta a tradition now (the card swap) ...hopefully since vday is also our BS bday, the bdau will over shadow the romance part, or lack there of... this holiday

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Submitted by z3girl on Mon, 02/13/2012 - 9:06pm

I can understand this. When I was looking at all the cards in the store, they made me want to gag. I love my DH, but I'm sorry, he's far from perfect, and I would change things about him if I could, or change myself to rethink all those things I used to feel. All the cards were like "you are the love of my life, I wouldn't change a thing about you, I cherish every day with you, you are the perfect man...etc etc etc". It took me a while to find a card that said "I love you" but without all the extra crap that I just can't bring myself to buy. I found one though! It's a shame that DH proposed on Valentine's Day because it hasn't been romantic ever since. Oh well.

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Mon, 02/13/2012 - 10:11pm

Ha! Sounds like me a few years back when DH and I were going through a REALLY rough patch. I was really just going through the motions. Had to get a card and they were all about how much that other person has brought into your life and I just wasn't feeling it. I ended up getting him a humorous card. Best I could do.

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Submitted by gijimenez5 on Tue, 02/14/2012 - 9:13am

OMG I was going through the same thing, I just can't force myself to buy a card that does not represent something I feel for him. I ended up buying a funny card, about Valentines! He offered to take me to see the VOw and I said no, he asked why and I refused to answer to not hurt his feelings. But the truth is I would just get jealous that a man can love a woman so much! Why am I not that lucky, I just don't feel my DH has that much love for me isn't that sad, and I settled for it.... Funny other times I think he loves me more then I love him... Love is a funny and complicated and at times a confusing emotion!

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Submitted by dodgegal05 on Mon, 02/13/2012 - 10:51pm

I was looking at cards tonight and couldn't even relate to what they had written in them. Not even the funny cards struck a emotion with me. Its sad that I cant even feel comfortable giving him a vday card as I feel it would be a lie. He doesnt do cards or gifts really. I tend to get money for special occasions (bday, christmas) not that I hate money, but a little creativity and thought about what I like or might want would be nice. He is taking me to dinner on the day after vday bc it will be less crowded and more choices for dinner. Better than nothing at all I spose.

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Submitted by Chefwit8 on Tue, 02/14/2012 - 10:20am

Awe man thank yall for sharing...love is or can be complicated &this too shall pass. Yea the cards dont truly represent my feelings right now & we are talking but all topics are "nuteral" nothing serious or about the Skids...(big elephant in the room) sooo he & I both know this vday is a bummer....not helping that the weather here is rainy cold & nasty! Lol...
@Ryhleighblue. I undrstand ur comment/quote Smile