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Silence was my worse fear

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Submitted by Chefwit8 on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 8:40pm

:? Sad I waited until my DH got settled in frm wrk & ate dinner, took shower etc before I spilled my guts...ok so I just poured all my issues (well the important ones anyway) cussed, cried & fussed at my DH bcuz im literally getting sick from the stress with my ss10 &12....and guess what .....
Crickets....no response. Just silence Sad omg

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Submitted by stepmomto3bioto1 on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 10:18pm

I agree with Mazzy. My DH does the exact same thing. Says nothing after I pour my heart out. Just very recently, he has started to work thru some things I truly needed him to step up to the plate on & I beyond appreciate it!! Helps me feel like he did hear me afterall

Just two or so wks ago, Dh said to me that he doesnt know how to vocalise to me how he is feeling or what he is thinking. More importantly to me, he said he knew how to deal with how his kids sometimes treat me.

Honestly, it meant the world to me to know he was "getting it" and that he knows i dont deserve it. Maybe your DH is the same way. Maybe he is taking it all in and really doesnt know what to say but is hearing you.

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Submitted by Chefwit8 on Tue, 02/21/2012 - 10:20pm

Mazzystar mayb that will work...the direct question approach,i was so emotional. It infuriated me when he didnt even console me when he could see im hurting. Its hard being honest, I searched repeatedly for months on how to tell him I hate your kids & im throwing in the towel! Ugh! I cant be honest with him any more. I tried the email & writing him a lettr & that pissed him off last yr. He told me we shouldnt have to write letters!! Well im lost. Hurt.pained.confused.drained.....etc
And yet he goes to work & im here forced to deal. Sad