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Need expierencent advice on NH family law!

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Well we are now going on nearly a month since we have seen SD. Just as predicted since BM moved even further away she has come up with excuses not to show up and drop SD off to us. This started right after BM asked DH about changing the schedule to every other weekend since SD is getting older and has a life to which DH said she has a life at both houses and no he will not take less time. She tried to say SD is getting car sick and less trips in the car would be nice to which we said stop letting her watch tv or read in the car.

VT vs NH...ugggggg

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So BM sent us a nice little letter explaining that she was giving us our 30 day notice that she is moving according to the court papers....Another 25 (its actually about 30 but whos counting?) miles further and that it wouldn't change the parenting plan or schedual (wonderful cuz its all how you read it to your own benefit anyway...) But one of her main arguments in court was the amount of time SD spend traveling between parents (so move her further dumbass). We aren't sure if its worth bringing to our lawyer or not.

Does anyone here actually love thier stepkids and WANT to be a SP?

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I bitch from time to time and I wont lie this place has been my saving grace at times but is there anything positive here? I know I love my stepdaughter. I really do. She is hard to deal with sometimes....I mean she looks just like BM and BM is a cunt and we are learning how to deal with her and DS sooo acts like BM sometimes...a lot of times.....but we deal...I have been through and learned a lot over the last year and I have to wonder...(and ladies I know a lot of you tried and BM was too much..I get that, don't take this personaly) But are some of you not even trying?

Things have changed...for now

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So I haven't been here in a while. I Actually realized for me some of this site was fueling my anger and bitterness. However I did get some very helpful info from some awesome lady here who made THE difference in where I (we) are today and I still don't know exactly who you are but to this day I want to say thank you and as I said then I would still send you flowers! To this day we get my SD even more than we did before and BM is still not perfect but your other advice along with others on this site have made it so communication is sooo much better and this summer has gone so smoothly!

Nothing from BM...ahhhhh

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SO after 2 1/2 weeks and crazy calls from BM to SD and SD goes back...nothing :jawdrop: We dropped SD7 off Tuesday night. BM didn't even look at DH even after the ear piercing and temp hair dye. No texts or angry phone calls...wondering what is making her hold her tounge...drum roll please!!! (I will let you all know what follows when the storm after the calm hits!) Anyone who has read my blog knows its coming! But SD has learned that her DAD has as much right as BM to make choices like piercing ears and dying hair. At least DH was smart enough not to have SDs hair bleached first!

I held a hysterical SD tonight thanks to BM...

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I just cant believe this woman. SD came down stairs about 20 mins after DH put her to bed. DH and I were just sitting on the couch watching tv. She started to tear up and said "mommy I don't feel good. My tummy hurts." (I know she calls me mommy, we've been over this). I said do you think you need a bucket? She says yes then bursts into full blow tears, climbs into my lap, and tells me how BM told her she may have eaten some bad berries and could die. WTF!?!

And the cycle continues...Mini BM comming out?

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I have been really noticing SD7 playing the little head games BM plays with her with BS2. I don't think she is doing it on purpose. I don't know how much she actually understands what it is her mother does to her but I am deff seeing it happen here more and more. It really bothers me. I hate watching BM do it to SD as it is. I mean when that kid got off the phone with her mother the other night after having a talk about getting her ears pierced she was so upset and crying. Her mother made her feel really guilty about wanting to have it done here.

5 kids and im going bonkers!

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Today is day 2 of having all 5 kids this week. SD7, BS6, BD2, Nephew4, and niece6. Summer is turning into hell for me! These kids are determined to drive me crazy. Why do they tattle so much at their ages? It drives me nuts and over the stupidest shit I ever heard in my life! AUNTYYYYY is sissy a baby word? Cuz BS said its a baby word! Mommmm he telling on me, I said he isn't in school yet so its ok for him to use baby words. MOMMMMY SD threw another toy at my face and I didn't do it to her first this time. MOMMMMMMM! OMG!

OMG! She has really lost her effing mind!!

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SO after all that bullshit with BM yesterday she calls here for SD today (I didn't feel like following SD around to make sure shit wasn't being talked about me) and I let the machine pick it up. I listen to the message she left while SD was playing outside and now my driving is being put into question. For the Love of God you crazy woman! I have been in this childs life about 50% of the time for 6 yrs now. I have picked her up and dropped her off probably more than BM has. Obviously I drive with her in the car when shes here. I mean seriously!

Normally BM would be blowing up our cell ....but silence

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:jawdrop: After last night I seriously expected BM to do what she always does. Take the night to "collect her thoughts" after DH has put her in her place and start text bombing the next morning. DH just called me on his break and still nothing! I don't think she knows what to do with the info that DH has adopted BS6. I figured she knew by now cuz SD is fully aware. Also I suppose its a little hard to argue that DH has more cause for concern with her husband having made her choke herself. Yeah IM the one who needs to be worried about.

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