Well we are now going on nearly a month since we have seen SD. Just as predicted since BM moved even further away she has come up with excuses not to show up and drop SD off to us. This started right after BM asked DH about changing the schedule to every other weekend since SD is getting older and has a life to which DH said she has a life at both houses and no he will not take less time. She tried to say SD is getting car sick and less trips in the car would be nice to which we said stop letting her watch tv or read in the car. She doesn't do either of those things when traveling with us and never gets car sick ( friggin genius). ANyway one of the weekends she said her husbands car got hit that day and her car was in the shop (his car is pretty messed up and she claims she has papers to prove her car was in the shop). Fine shit happens but she didn't even offer to make up the time and there are 2 other licensed adult in the house hold. If this had happened on our time she would have demanded we figure it out and call apon family help so SD doesn't miss school, which we would have done. Then last weekend after I was already in the area where we pick her up she texts and says SD is sick and she doesn't want to make the drive. We went back and forth a bit and in the end we called her out about already owing us a weekend and DH is sick of her trying to keep his daughter from him. (to clarify DH and I share a cell phone and when I say I text I am on the phone with him telling him what she says and texting back for him. These are not conversations between her and I personally). She continued to refuse to show up but did finally offer her weekends this month and next. We said yes. Soooo here we are Friday and I am supposed to pick her up this evening and she texts DH to say now SHE is sick and doesn't know if she will be able to make it tonight but maybe her husband can drop her off tomorrow morning. Btw, DH talked to SD on the phone the other night and said so you were sick last weekend huh? SD says yeah I guess. Bullshit. Now this weekend is technically BMs weekend but she offered it as a make up weekend. She also sent a text a couple days ago saying DH backed her into a corner and didn't give her time to think about what is right for SD so we can have her this weekend but not her December weekend and from now on we will tack "make up days" onto our summer schedule (which she tries to start changing near the end of the school year every year). She does not have the right to just make these decisions and changes without agreeance on both sides yet she does it anyway. Oh and she always ads on well you can come pick her up (except for when SD was supposedly sick) which is about a 6 hour round trip, maybe longer depending on traffic. We have lived in the same place for 6 years and she just keeps moving further away and trying to take more time. Ive had a lot of experience with VT laws and know what I would do here but have heard NH laws are very different. Clearly its time to do something about this. Its killing DH. And our other 2 kids miss their sister soo much and the youngest is 3 who doesn't understand why she hasn't seen her big sister in so long. We all miss her very much and this just isn't fair to anyone, especially SD. Any serious legal advice anyone could offer would be so very much appreciated. DO we file an enforcement order and go from there? We know going to court can be a gamble. They may side with her even though shes the one who keeps moving being that courts don't like to change who the primary custodial parent is, but there has to be something to do here. She cant just make changes and keep SD from us there not be anything to do about it.