In my last post I mentioned that SD15 had emailed this week that she "might" want to do something with her dad. Hasn't seen him in 6+ months due to a blow out over bad grades.

SD15 is at that age where she waits to see where her best opportunity is for fun or gifts before committing to anything. So we are stuck waiting on the "might" want to see her dad sometime today (Sunday). I don't think I've ever seen anything as pathetic and sad at the same time as a grown man, staring at his cell phone willing it to ring. Apparently she was supposed to call "if" the visit was going to happen mid-morning. BF and I are both being grumpy this morning because I think this whole thing is Bull $&!t and I'm not buying into it, of course I can't say that or risk a huge fight (thank god for the blog). BF is mired in guilt about everything that has happen since the moment SD was conceived to her failing the 9th grade. The mid morning call doesn't come and now the late afternoon plans we made for after SD's visit are in jeopardy. BF "do you want to take SD to the outlet mall you wanted to go to so we can still do what you wanted to do." Me, "Nope, I think you two should just do whatever it was you have planned."

Of course, since nothing was ever resolved about her grades or the way she and BM treated BF, me, and grandparents over the grade incident I'm not feeling warm and fuzzy toward SD. I'm tired of picking up the pieces when SD and BM do a number on BF. I nursed him through 2 months of serious depression this spring after the grade blow up. I think she is old enough for a very long talk about how people are to be treated and what is expected of her. This talk won't happen, SD has played her game well, by staying away and avoiding contact for so long, there is no way BF will jeopardize this chance to see her by offering her some tough love and a life lesson.

Nope, I firmly believe this is to make sure she gets Christmas presents and I'm not going with her to any store where she can start to list the things she wants and use BF's guilt to get him to buy stuff.

So, now well into the afternoon, BF finally get THE CALL. Really, part of me was glad SD wasn't going to hurt him by toying with the chance to see her. But the other part of me just want to whack him over the head for being such an idiot and allowing a 15 yr old kid to mess with him. I mean, in a normal intact family, would everyone just sit around waiting for a teenager to call? It is pathetic that everything is on hold until we get the go ahead on whether the visit is happening.

I guess I'm going to rake some leaves and hopefully burn off some anger with my sunday afternoon. Anything post SD visit isn't going to happen.

My least favorite part of being a SP is having no authority or power, but still getting to pick up the pieces of a shattered BF.