I'm wondering if this is normal teenage boy behavior. Our backyard neighbor has 2 teenage boys. We live on a slope with our house being on the high side. Due to the line up of the houses on the slope, the bedroom window of one of the boys is very visable from several windows, our deck and our backyard. This is particularly the case when it is dark outside and the bedroom light is on. We are also in a new development, so none of the trees or bushes are very tall yet. The back door neighbors happen to be the daughter/son in law and grandkids of A now-retired former co-worker of DH's. A co-work that DH hated and that made DH's work existence miserable for about 10 years until the guy retired. We built and moved into the neighborhood first and the backyard neighbor built 6 months later. We had no idea of they were related to the awful former co-worked until he showed up as part of the move in force for the new neighbors. In addition the boys are students at the high school DH's teaches at and DH is an incredibly private person.

The problem: several months ago DH and I happened to be in the backyard with the dog when the light in neighbor boy's bedroom when on and we were treated to a very visible full backside moon as the kid attempted to dig around in his closet.

DH was furious and wanted to immediately alert all the neighbors to the fact we had a pervert in our midst and alert the parents. I talked him down from alerting the sex offender registry and suggested we just talk to the parents and advise them of the incident and suggest a talk with the boy about blinds. IMHO, the kid made the dash from the bathroom to his room in the nude, no intentional mooning, and who hasn't also made that dash? I had the chat with neighbor dad, he says he will talk with son. We have a laugh about boys will be boys.

Fast forward. No further incidents for many months. We plant a pine tree that we hope will grow to block the offending neighbor boy bedroom sometime. We aren't close to these neighbors, but I have tried to be friendly as I don't think they are to blame for the sins of the offending former co-worker. DH just avoids any interactions with them.

Until tonight... DH is in the backyard with the dog when the bedroom light goes on. Neighbor boy is lounging on his bed in only his shorts. We can clearly see him and everything in his room from the backyard and our windows. DH blows up! We need to move, he hates the house, hates this kid, he thinks the kid is doing it on purpose, we have to buy a 20 ft pine, the kid. Is creepy and a pervert.

I check and yes, blinds open, kid on bed shirtless, can see right in. By the time DH finishes his rant, I go to take a picture so I can show the parents what we can see and the light is now off.

While I don't like the situation with the window, but it just isn't as big a deal to me. I can wait for the pine to grow and for the kid to move out in a few years. I like our new house and we designed all of it. I had brothers that in the teen years liked showing off their muscles and I don't mind revisiting the blinds with the parents and even having them come to our house to see just how much we can see in the window when the light is on and it is dark outside.

DH is convinced it is personal or that the kids is a creepy pervert. He keeps asking what I would do if it were a girl. I guess I think a girl hanging out in bra and panties would be more serious than a boy shirtless. Double standard? Not sure, but doesn't seem pornigraphic to me.

So stalkers with teen boys, is this normal behavior? Should I talk to the parents, just buy a bigger tree, or help DH pack to move?