Saturday afternoon, SO came home and said he wanted to take the family out for mini golf & go karts. I knew DS14 would enjoy getting out & loves mini golf, so off we went. During the 18 holes SD14 kept praising me “Good shot” and trying to high five me. I just smiled & nodded here & there. Then after golf she got right in front of me (which isn’t unusual as she has no concept of personal bubbles) threw her arms around me & hugged me. “I want us to be the way we used to be”… Here’s where Miss Directed is dumbfounded. “Ummm…. Ok?” I can see SO looking on with pride because his princess is once again making strides to “mend things” and then I see DS14 looking at us as if we’ve sprouted three extra heads! LOL
So, that’s that, right? She wants us to “go back”, so we’re all good now!
BUWAHAHAHAHAHAHA‼! SERIOUSLY?
Nothings going to change. SO is not going to miraculously start parenting and SD will go back to wanting me wiped off the face of the earth. They could both shock the hell out of me, but I honestly don’t see that happening. Stay tuned…
Isn't funny the way it's okay for their kids to treat us like crap, but the second we disengage and stop allowing them to affect us, we're the bad guys.
Good for you for changing your circumstances and taking away her power. And that's the thing....she wants to go back to the way it was because she knows she no longer has power over you.
Stay strong and stick to your guns. At this age, nothing good is going to come from SD14. I've been there. Maybe in four years or so but right now? She's just trying to manipulate you and she's gunning for some big cash prize down the road.
Yeah, I kind of tried that with YSD over a year ago. Mainly for DH to hear and so he could see YSD was 100% at fault for where our relationship ended up. She no longer calls me, texts me or anything. No contact since Christmas. I just gave my DD the shirt I bought for YSD while DH and I were on Vaca.
Kind of like Thunderfoot "desperately wanting my acceptance". No she doesn't. She just wants it to look like she's trying and I'm being an insensitive bitch. Maybe I am but I'm over that kid.
Saturday afternoon, SO came
Saturday afternoon, SO came home and said he wanted to take the family out for mini golf & go karts. I knew DS14 would enjoy getting out & loves mini golf, so off we went. During the 18 holes SD14 kept praising me “Good shot” and trying to high five me. I just smiled & nodded here & there. Then after golf she got right in front of me (which isn’t unusual as she has no concept of personal bubbles) threw her arms around me & hugged me. “I want us to be the way we used to be”… Here’s where Miss Directed is dumbfounded. “Ummm…. Ok?” I can see SO looking on with pride because his princess is once again making strides to “mend things” and then I see DS14 looking at us as if we’ve sprouted three extra heads! LOL
So, that’s that, right? She wants us to “go back”, so we’re all good now!
BUWAHAHAHAHAHAHA‼! SERIOUSLY?
Nothings going to change. SO is not going to miraculously start parenting and SD will go back to wanting me wiped off the face of the earth. They could both shock the hell out of me, but I honestly don’t see that happening. Stay tuned…
I feel ya'. The phrase,
I feel ya'. The phrase, "don't hold your breath", comes to mind lol.
Isn't funny the way it's okay
Isn't funny the way it's okay for their kids to treat us like crap, but the second we disengage and stop allowing them to affect us, we're the bad guys.
Good for you for changing your circumstances and taking away her power. And that's the thing....she wants to go back to the way it was because she knows she no longer has power over you.
Stay strong and stick to your guns. At this age, nothing good is going to come from SD14. I've been there. Maybe in four years or so but right now? She's just trying to manipulate you and she's gunning for some big cash prize down the road.
^^ THIS ^^
Yeah, I kind of tried that
Yeah, I kind of tried that with YSD over a year ago. Mainly for DH to hear and so he could see YSD was 100% at fault for where our relationship ended up. She no longer calls me, texts me or anything. No contact since Christmas. I just gave my DD the shirt I bought for YSD while DH and I were on Vaca.
Kind of like Thunderfoot
Kind of like Thunderfoot "desperately wanting my acceptance". No she doesn't. She just wants it to look like she's trying and I'm being an insensitive bitch. Maybe I am but I'm over that kid.
Next time she says that,
Next time she says that, smile sweetly and say "that would be awesome! You and your dad can get out of my house and we will pretend we all never met!"
Ding! We have the winning
Ding! We have the winning response!