Help w/ 5yr SD
Im in a situation where my H has custody of his 5yo D me and her usually always got along ive been in her life since she was almost 2 so she doesnt know anything about her parents being 2gether and here lately im stuck with her alllllll day while her D is at work and her BM forget about it she always calls and says she dont want her that shes sick or tired and has to work w/e and shes so stupid you cant ask her for anything even for her own D she supposedly cares so much about.
But what im trying to get at here is im tired being the only responsible parent in this childs life I knew what I was getting into but I never thought it would be like this.Its getting to the point where I cant stand her I want nothing to do with her at all.I have even thought about leaving but when I think im really leaving because of a 5 year old is driving me crazy it sounds stupid.but all she does is complain and cry and when I try to do stuff with her like color watch a movie etc. its never enough she just wants more more more and I cant because I just had a baby of my own that needs constant care and everyone says she just jealous but I think she should be used to it by now her mother had a child that's 2 now?and my baby is almost 6months so really how long does it take to get used to it.& trying to teach this kid anything is pointless she dont comprehend anything and does'nt make the effort to try (example:what letter is this 
and she'll say elephant or 5)and she's been in preschool so she should know something.But I need some ideas or something to cope with what I have been dealt maybe someone has an idea of something I can do to keep both kids and me happy and sane. Thank you for your time.
Maybe you could have SD help
Maybe you could have SD help you with the baby? Change the baby, clean the baby, etc....? I think some kids feel left out & want to be a part of the nurturing stuff - especially little girls. Does she have a baby doll? Maybe she can take care of her baby when you are taking care of yours? Also - suggest that it's important for her to learn her ABC's -- she is a big sister and the baby will look up to her.
Thanks you guys : ) But yeah
Thanks you guys : ) But yeah I do involve her with baby grabbing diapers wipes etc keepin her entertained while im busy but sometimes she does to much like waking her up and wanting constant play I try to explain she is only a baby and cant do things like us grown ups can and I have tried telling her its important to learn so she can teach her sister but I dont know if she really does'nt know anything or plays stupid for extra attention.Any ideas on how to make learning for her more understandable maybe?
I tried to make it more into
I tried to make it more into a game and not so serious. Not like sitting down & doing homework. There are so many things around the house that could help. One thing is - you could have her sing the ABC song to the baby as the baby falls asleep & if she says she can't -- tell her that you just heard the other day that is what babies like and is best done by big sisters ;-} Maybe she will try harder & practice on her own. Another example could be - if she grabs something like an apple - ask her what letter is starts with. There are also games of playing dumb .... asking how many apples are left so then she will count them. I would get my daughter to read a book twice - once the correct way and then the 2nd time throwing in different words to make it funny.
Thanx thats a great idea ill
Thanx thats a great idea ill have to try the whole whats this object start with hope it works!
Yeah I agree with you
Yeah I agree with you completely I did mention she wan in preschool and they never had any complaints with her schooling just the occasional talks to much in class lol But yet when I try to do something I think she just wants the extra attention.But yeah I have finally decided to leave it up her teachers when school start (cant wait) cause it just aggravates me and like you said when she's ready then ill help.