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Hi Everyone,
I'm going through this hard Situation almost 5 years now.
I have 2 Stepchildren, from 2 different Women.
Girl-14yrs old, Mother is Insane, Agressive..was never a Good Mother at all.
Boy-12, was born on the 24th Week of Pregnancy because Mother is Alcoholic and into Drugs. Neglected the Kids all throughout, went every Night out to only get Drunk and High. It was a Miracle that he survived despite all the Cables arround his Body when he was born. He is lucky that he didnt had Physical Disabilities.
He understands everything what you say to him.
Only when you say the Magic word "NO" then he turns Into someone else,
He is becoming aggressive, we had to change our door 3 times and Im getting scared for my Small Kids because he is breaking everything.
The Mother didnt show up since he lived with us.
He doesnt miss her anyway, he doesnt even want her to take him way back before his Father and I got Married.

I have a Son age of 6, he believes that my Husband is his Father.
Did not met his Biological Father. We broke up a week before I knew I was 12weeks pregnant.
My Husband and I were together when he was 8months old.
We lived together when he was a year and a Half.

And now we had our common Son, he is 4.
Everything is very well with our common Child.
We dont fight at all or argue about him.

All Kids are living with us.
The Mothers of the Kids doesn’t care at all…
No Birthday, Christmas, New Year etc...Greetings,
I am the One who takes care of them almost 5 years now.
From the Start everything was Ok, there might be some minor Problems but i tried to Patient.
The thought that they have to adjust with the New Situation.
Ana(14yrs old Changed Name) from the start likes my Son Dave(6yrs old Changed Name)
They were both like the Best of friends, she used to play together with Dave when she plays with our neighbours on the Backyard - Back then they were Ana(9)Dave(3).
All was very well, I loved and accepted her because i see that she loved Dave as his own Brother.
That time Owen(12yr old Changed Name) was almost 7 yrs old, he liked me, all was Good.
Both Kids even call me MOM.

Time passed by they became very disrespectful towards me, they don't listen to whatever I say to them.
When I offer and say them something they Refuse to everything 24/7.

Until they started to play with their Father against me.
Like when i tell Ana to bring the Garbage out, she then says to her Dad i never told her that.
And Owen, like I make him snacks and he refuse to eat them, when my Husband arrive after Work then will Owen say he was ver Hungry, he hasn't eaten yet.

The 4 Kids are good to each other, ofcourse they Fight constantly and I dont take sides.
Unless they dont hurt each other.

One of the problem also is that, whenever I say something to his Kids or asks them to do something, like to bring thier Plates in the Kitchen or tell them they should Stop whatever Stupid things they are doing, they dont listen at all, they try everytime to Piss me off.

To the point that I have to permanently complain to their Father everything what I dislike about his Kids, and he is every time trying to Protect them, like as if Its all my Fault, that I never wanted them here.
I kept quiet all through the Years because I dont want the Kids to have the feeling of having a broken Family again.

Until One day i was so bloated full of his Blindness i told him.
"Cant you see what is happening?Your Children is brainwashing you all throughout,
and squezzing the Patience out of me? I accepted them to live with us because I understood that their Mothers are not be able to take care of them, that you loved them so much.
He didnt even reaized my Point, my Sacrifices.

I tried to balance everything but it Impossible, no One could ever make that.
I am raising 4 Kids with different Attitudes and Mentality.
Anyway when the 4 kids gets into trouble they get all the consequences which is fitted to thier age.

Now what happen is, when Ana and Owen get scolded for whatever Stupid things they make, my Husband finds any reason to scold Dave too, like its making me feel that If his Kids gets Problem with you ,then so Dave too”…

Like when Dave must be told more than 3 times to do something, then he shouts at him and make some hurtful comments like “this Child has a very Big Problem”… And thats making me giving up.
I am not allowed to say something over his Kids and his yelling at mines.

Dave just started to go to school get bullied everyday because he looks different and resulted Bulimia” (correct me if Im wrong). At this young Age he goes to a psychiatrist to talk about this Problem.

I am starting to dislike his Kids because of thier Attitude towards me, and thier Fathers attitude towards me and Dave.

That is why I tried Ignoring Ana and Owen when they make Stupid things, I directly approach my Husband and tell him whats going on and let him handle the Situation,
because too tired and fed up to be mis understood.

And Now his complaining. I became to be the Enemy again just because i let him Handle everything regarding his Kids.
And Ana and Owen still disrespects me as of Date.
I just cant take it anymore.
I need help