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Submitted by margaritababe232 on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 5:41am

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My husband and I have been in a battle for joint legal custody regarding his son for close to a year now and we are still waiting for the judges decision over the matter. What i want to know is how many times can a BM be held in contempt for deliberately withholding visitations and health information from my husband? This is the 3rd time that she has taken away time from my hubby and is threatening not to allow him to have his son for xmas again this year like we are supposed to, and all she says is go ahead and file contempt papers they wont do anything to me anyways!! ideas suggestions HELP

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Submitted by Bubbly1 on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 6:41am

If you have a document stating you are supposed to have have ss for christmas, be there to pick him up when you're supposed to. If she won't let you take him call the police and wait in her yard. If nothing else you have proof you tried, for the judge to see. Maybe she'll get tired of the cops showing up every time you have a visit scheduled, and start playing nice.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 8:44am

Don't mean to piss on your parade - and every state, as well as every judge, are different - but we took into court 2 PAGES of missed/denied visitations - one instance per line.

Our BM got slapped on the wrist with a $500 Contempt of Court charge. That's it....

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Submitted by Ex4life on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 10:03am

I really think it depends on the judge in your area. I know in my county the judge has a reputation for not tolerating these issues. I was having this discussion with my attorney one day while we were waiting for our case to be heard and he told me he always encourages his clients to file each instance as its own case of show cause. So if your DH was denied visitation 3 times then he should file for three show cause hearings (They should all be heard on the same day). Our local judge has jailed CP for this as well. I have also heard of, but don't know this personally, that she has also changed physical custody to the NCP for continually denying visitation. When you file for contempt charges on her be sure to ask for make up time in your wishes for relief.

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Submitted by my.kids.mom on Tue, 11/29/2011 - 8:06pm

My bf is having the same issues. It all does seem to depend on the judge. I've come across this: http://www.hostile-aggressive-parenting.com Instead of going to the judge because dh isn't getting his visitation time, present it as a child abuse case if bm is being a hostile-aggressive parent (which is what denying visitation is...) Keeping a father from a child is emotional abuse to the child. Check out the site because our bm fits it PERFECTLY. Yours might, too.