What did i get myself into?
After googling various topics I came accorss this site and thought it may be a good place to vent and get some opinions.
I was on and off with my SO who has 4 kids. He has two with his first wife which are 14 & 18 and than he has two younger ones 9 & 10 with his ex girlfriend. During the whole time we dated I never met his kids, fast forward to end of last year when we became more serious, I met his oldest the 18year old. Fast forward to this year I ended up getting pregnant, we moved in together and that is when I met his youngest two.
Now i do not have an issue with the kids, I have my own daughter (11) and it is not like I dont like kids. But I am really second guessing this whol situtation. I feel selfish for not wanting them to come over or his oldest living with us. I feel at first i was being supportive with a man i loved and his kids, but when it came down to finally meeting them and the situtation setting in, i feel in my heart it isnt for me. I do not want to live him and his son, I do not want to deal with his younger two coming over every other weekend, I do not want to create some fake brady bunch family that isn't in my heart.
Like i said it is not like i dislike kids, I love kids, his kids have not caused any issues yet. I am just really feeling that this situation isnt for me. He is constantly pushing them to come over more, i know in the end he wants them to live with him and I dont want any of it. I feel so bad, but I am also tired of feeling bad for something I dont want. Hey i tried a situation and found out it wasnt for me.
Now the hard part is telling this person