He's an asshole, plain and simple.

Because he's a little asshole and no one (as in, his father) has called him on it and/or taught him about basic respect? At that age, there is no justifiable excuse. Does he call other people by name, people he's met since you've been there in particular? Does he call your children by their names? He may be trying to push buttons, but I would think he would have given up by now. It's possible he's trying hard to not acknowledge your existence. What does his dad say about it, surely he notices?

I'd not acknowledge him when he speaks to me, when possible. When he repeats himself, say, "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't know you were talking to me." Of course, that's only if his father continues to refuse to parent him properly and discuss it with him.

I'm guessing he does this because he's allowed to do it. Would you be ok with anyone else treating you this way?

Teenagers are whacko to start and products of divorces are worse. He's probably imagining that you don't exist and by not using your name you'll eventually leave all of this just being a speed bump in his road of life.

I assume he'll be graduating in a few weeks. When alone ask him where he plans on living after graduation. Nothing else, just a simple question, which he'll avoid answering but it'll be fun to watch the gears start turning.

If he is a nasty brat kind of kid then I would say that this is a form of the silent treatment. If he does not acknowledge you then maybe you might just go away.

If he is the ackward and unsure kind of kid then I would think that he does not know what to call you, how you fit into his life, and if you are going to stay. All really big questions for an 18 year old. 18 year old's today are much less mature than they were 30 years ago so do coping with life can be hard for them.

Either way, I would ask the kid to go out for coffee/soda/tea/whatever with you - just the 2 of you and have a conversation. Talk about the hard stuff if you can. How blending isn't easy for the adults and sometimes we learn as we go. Ask him what he thinks and what he feels. If you are lucky you might start a relationship with him. As some point ask him what he would like to call you.

If he is the nasty brat then you have a better understanding that the relationship wont go very far.

Do you address him by his name? If so, stop. He's being a bully. Give him a bit of his own medicine.

He is a toxic disrespectrul asshole. That pretty much explains it. He needs instant clarity from his dad IMHO. Immediately grow up and treat his father's partner and her children with respect or leave ... NOW! Do not pass go, do not collect $200. No tolerance and any violation invokes immediate eviction.

My dad let my brother and I know in no uncertain terms that our mother was his wife and we would not treat his bride with anything but impeccable respect or we would suffer the consequences. Mom gave us the same message regarding dad.

Good luck.

Yes, this is my two. They only will speak if spoken to directly, and no I have never heard either of them utter my or my daughter's name either. I don't think it changes, but if he knows it bothers you and he is doing it intentionally, you give him a victory.

Some days, I ignore them. Some days, I make an effort, but no matter what I do it is wrong in everyone's eyes, sad.

I feel the same as you. All I want is common courtesy. I am not looking tone their parent or their pal.

Is there any possibility that he has some form of Aspergers? I'm just trying to come up with a logical explanation. My father's ex-wife (they were married for 11 months) has a son who has it. He was born at least 10 years after their divorce (they do have a daughter together; my half-sister). Since the poor kid has no father (he is the product of a one night stand with a stranger) my father took the job of being his dad and calls him and treats him like he's his biological son. He really loves my father and calls him dad. Anyways, this kid can only interact with others through the use of the xbox. Video games are his only interest (I was told by a medical professional that it can be common for people with Aspergers/autism to be very focused on one hobby; his being the xbox). Other than that, he is extremely awkward, cannot look people in the eyes, is very inappropriate in his social skills and cannot interact as a normal 16 year old does. He will blurt out the most rude and strange comments and he doesn't see how they are inappropriate. I don't know, it sounds as if your SS is a passive-aggressive ass but I do know that individuals who are afflicted with this condition can act this way and therefore can be perceived by others as rude. I'm probably wrong but just felt like throwing this idea out there. My husband always says that I try to find logic in everything as I am a very black and white thinker.

A couple years ago DH invited 2 SS to our church euchre tournament; you would think no problem, right? Well, I was the one responsible for totalling each euchre players scores for the night. Right in my face, someone referred me as SS stepmom right in front of SSs. And I responded accordingly to what happened a couple weeks earlier by the same SSs - right in front of DH and me - "I don't know - I'm only DH's wife!" Kodak moment of mouths wide opened!

I strongly feel a name is not important; respect is!

And if you can't get the proper name nor the respect, then you need to decide what's more important to YOU!!!

ME - I'm a bitch!