After reading posts and in being responded to in a negative manner, I just wanted to say that I think people forget that we have feelings too.
For most of us I think, there ARE reasons why we feel the way we do. It isnt just because we hate kids, are being babies or dont care.

I for one, DO care. But I dont think some people who say we need to "get over it", they are "just kids", realize the things we deal with.
Now I can certainly say FOR ME anyway - that my life with this man and his kids isnt ALWAYS terrible. Its just that there are times and ENOUGH times that it becomes a lot to handle is all.
Again, venting in a 3 paragraph post, doesnt give anyone the full spectrum of what actually happens. And I would gather that the majority of people posts the things they do , not out of anger, but out of sheer hurt feelings. Even if they are selfishly justified.

If half of these kids were loving towrds us and werent a bit devilish, I dont know that we would feel the way we do.
I also am a big enough person to say that there are times that I need to act more like the adult and understand they are kids with their own feelings too. Divorce isnt fun for anyone.

But there are so many aspects to everyones situations I think.

My skids arent horrible, but they certainly dont do the nicest things all the time. They do things that I am certain many children dont do to their "intact parents". At least I would never have to mine. They make comments that condecending adults make, hurtful things.

Example -
My BFs Mom was over for a visit. She asked how my nephew was. My Bf, responded and in that respose said something about how much of a devil he was, but that he has just the biggest brown eyes, just like DSP1978 - so its so hard to reprimand him. Something like that.
Anyway the 10 year old responded with the follwing-
I dont know why some people are push overs for big brown eyes. They are so plain and boring. I am a pushoever for green eyes.

Well guess what all... I am dsp1978- I have the big brown eyes. Her mother(BM) has green eyes.

Now.. did I say anything? NO. Was I thinking - " you little fricken brat, shut the F up". YEP! Sure was.
Not because I hate her, but because she KNEW what she was doing, and it hurt my feelings. Why say something like that? And why just because you are 10 am I supposed to, in some peoples opinions on here, just think that its no big deal and kids wil be kids.
Im sorry but she knew by the comment she made, EXACTLY what she was doing. It was MEANT to hurt my feelings. I was MEANT to hear it.
I know, that to some it is no big deal. BUT remember this is ONE example. These tyoes of jabs and things are said and done all the time. Not every word that comes out of their mouths, but enough.
Over time, these things wear on you. You get tired of trying to be nice, and getting pooped on.
So when I see my BF being affectionate with them because the absolutely feed on it, and OVERLY do it because I am there. It angers me. And the jealousy comes from him feeding back into it.

Again, I know everyone is different. I dont claim to be perfect and I know I am worng too.
I guess my point is, stepmoms have feelings too. And I think that after being expected to take on this role, even if we did know what we were getting into, sometimes we are pushed to the side. Put last, etc.
It starts to become hurtful. For me, I just want to love. My BF, even his kids if theyd let me. and BE LOVED IN RETURN.
Im not a horrible hateful woman. I would just rather they werent there. But I know the reality of it is they are and always will be.
SO I am doing my best, mistakes and all to be the best I can.

Id guess id just like to be included and feel accepted and loved more. It comes down to that my vents and rants are out of hurt feelings.
There are alot more to things people than we all realize.

Those who live in glass houses...