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Submitted by dont know what to do on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 10:07am

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We have had a 3 week break from the skids and I just looked at the calendar and realized that when we get them next weekend, we will wait another 3 weeks because of Mother's Day and all of a sudden I was happy. And I don't feel bad for saying this out loud. I hate the every other weekend or should I say every weekend they are with us and to wait another 3 weeks to get them again is a blessing. I'm just dreading the summer so bad!

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Submitted by dont know what to do on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 10:24am

Sometimes I wonder if I can do this the rest of my life. I feel bad sometimes not liking the skids but I honestly have tried it's like it just wasn't meant to be. I hope you enjoy your time away! Wish I could just leave sometimes but I've got a son of my own that I hate to leave.

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Submitted by PCD on Sat, 04/21/2012 - 7:26pm

I feel the same way...it just wasn't meant to be. My skids are not horrible. I thought they were until I found this site. They are kids that in all honesty don't have the skills to be better. They don't hit me or hate me or anything bad like that. But I can't find it in me to love them and most days I have a hard time really being able to say I like them. I feel horrible for saying that, but every little bad or annoying thing they do just drives me crazy. I'm pretty sure I'm just not meant to be a step mom. It sucks because I can never tell my husband that. I love him too much to ever hurt him. I can't imagine if anyone ever talked like this about my kids so telling him how I feel is totally out of the question.

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Submitted by SunnySkies on Sun, 04/22/2012 - 1:32pm

PCD, snap. My skids are actually not too bad but I don't feel anything for them at all. I don't have kids (choice) and am not really into them. I resent them every time SO goes running around after them and they are rather spoilt, and I resent the money he spends on them, when he doesn't earn a lot and gives BM a chunk every month. We've been together 7 years and I'm actually thinking about seriously ending it with him. I don't feel it's fair on him, me or the skids. It's so sad because he could have been the best thing that happened to me and would be perfect if it wasn't for his kids. I dread every other weekend - that's not how life should be.

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Submitted by Jmom on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 11:55am

Going through this right now. Just had 2 free weekends without SD12 and I'm having a hard time giving it up. I even posted on ST whether or not I should go to my moms for the weekend and let DH and SD have some father daughter time. I bet he won't even go get her if me and BS12 aren't home. This is not sad, I think it's completely normal. Oh yeah, she comes EVERY weekend.

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Submitted by dont know what to do on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 12:20pm

Wow, every weekend, I thank god that we live 4 hours from BM. My DH makes his kids come, over Easter they didn't want to come because we hadn't told them that we had plans for an Easter Egg hunt...yea really, they think it's party time every time they come over. First words from SD7 "are what are we going to do?" So irritating! I seriously cannot wait until they say they don't want to come and DH doesn't make them. I told him last time to let them stay with BM, if they don't want to be here then they don't deserve to participate in our fun!

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Submitted by Jmom on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 1:14pm

That's right every weekend. To be honest I'm thinking SD12 doesn't really want to come and DH is making her come. He is a real guilty daddy. BM tries to work most weekends and she has no problem with leaving SD12 home alone and I kind of think SD likes being home alone. She comes to our house locks herself up in the guest room and pretty much watches TV all weekend long.

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Submitted by dont know what to do on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 1:45pm

Yea thats what our SD15 does, she rarely comes out of her room to go outside. She will come out for food but that's about it. She is very sheltered though and I feel bad for her some days but honestly wish she would just stay with BM less of a hassle. SD7 only wants to come if we have plans or you have to entertain her the entire time.

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Submitted by PCD on Sat, 04/21/2012 - 7:28pm

I get so damn excited when I see that we won't have the kids for a weekend. A few weekends in a row would be a miracle! Our schd is that we have them every single weekend! So the most time off I ever get is 1 weekend. I'm jealous. I could really use a good long break and some time with my husband and our baby. I think he has a hard time realizing that him and our baby are my family and I very rarely ever get alone time with my family. His kids - the ones he had with someone else - are his family and as much as I wish I could, I can't consider them mine. They will always be his. It just sucks that he always gets time with his entire family. I never get time with mine. *we always have company*