Well, There Goes Memorial Day Weekend - just a vent...
So I wake up this morning, already getting anxious because this is skid weekend.... SO is ready to leave for work and says "I'd like to keep DS Monday, too, this weekend. I haven't seen him much and I feel like I have to try to see him more".
I know that saying no makes me a selfish bitch, so I tell him to do what he wants to do and remind him that it's my day off, too, but fine. I remind him that there's a really good chance that they already have plans for the weekend, like they usually do and that his time with skidly is cut short because THEY always cut it short, not us. He didn't see skidly during the last scheduled weekend because it was Mother's day (which is not called out in their agreement, but I was fine with him not coming here). The prior 2 weekends he was here, the Bowel Movement called saying there was an impromptu meeting for something that skidly joined - but they swear they didn't know about it till AFTER SO picked the kid up - that's two times that SO brought him back a day early. (I created a policy of "no jerking us around during weekends". But they jerk us around anyway... in the end, it's a good thing because he leaves early, but it's impossible to make any plans or get anything done when this happens, and it just pisses me off).
I'm holding out hope that they will have some plans already, but in the event they don't, I'll have 3 solid days with this - the most I've ever had to deal with, and I am Seriously Not Happy about it.
Thanks for listening... This weekend's gunna suck out loud. 
Yes, Sassy, SO will be here
Yes, Sassy, SO will be here the entire time. I've never (never, not one time) been with the skid without SO. If SO had to work or something, the skid wouldn't come here. It's a known that I'm not going to play babysitter for DS. Hell no.
Hi Sally... My issue isn't
My issue isn't that SO isn't around or dumps anything on me - actually, he's never done anything like that, although he does have his Disney side where skidly is concerned.
I'm the one with the pathetically sneakly skid. I'm disengaged, but when I'm in the house with skidly, I become sort of a silent stalker - I make it my life's purpose to catch him doing effed up shit (he never disappoints) which is not probably normal or healthy. So all in all it's just blech... 3 days of it.
But that isn't the case with
But that isn't the case with the OP. Her SO doesn't dump the kid on her.
I can 'take' what I have to
I can 'take' what I have to take. I don't have to take 'extra' stuff.
Yeah OP- you should leave
Yeah OP- you should leave your dh, get a divorce, and swallow your feelings. The dad should always be allowed to trample your feelings for that of the skid.
Now back to reality - you should tell him that you would like a day with him to yourself. We all need them especially after a hard work week. I have bios with my dh, and sometimes we just need a break. So we get a sitter, perhaps if he could agree to at least a couple of hours of alone time with just you during the weekend then that would make you more agreeable to an extended visit.
Snowflake, he would never
Snowflake, he would never consider a sitter in a million years. When skidly is here, they are surgically connected. I've ended the weekend "outings" a while ago because this kid is just a whiny pain in the ass... who always expects to have something purchased for him where ever we go. No thanks. So skid weekends are just complete throw-aways.
In the past, when we had plans during skid weekend, SO would tell skidly that he'd spend time at his grandmother's house and the kid had a freak out session, which brought the Bowel Movement into the conversation, and after 2 days of total drama, the kid didn't come that weekend at all. Which of course made SO a horrible father and all that jazz. We've come a long way since then on the BM front - they haven't spoken for almost 9 months or so - no texts, nothing. But SO is pretty squeamish and doesn't want to rock whatever boat he thinks may still be lurking there, so he's definitely not going to entertain a sitter.
Yeah, yeah, I know the
Yeah, yeah, I know the drill... But I didn't think I'd need to spend the entire weekend 'on my own' - It just sucks to have this sort of a surprise on my very much needed day off.
Pathetically, I do that...
Geeze - what a ridiculous life this can be with this shit.
... I am so glad I found this site.
"Geeze - what a ridiculous
"Geeze - what a ridiculous life this can be with this shit."
It really, really is. I am also, um, 'blessed' with their presence over this three day weekend which also includes my birthday. I have made plans with a friend to go out alllll day on my birthday. Will tell dh tonight. He will be pissy, because he mentioned wanting to 'do something fun with his kids' this weekend, but I don't care. I will NOT be made to entertain them on MY birthday, damnit.
Maybe not quite that far but
Maybe not quite that far but close. I know I can't leave that comment alone.
First of all Happy Birthday
First of all Happy Birthday my fellow Gemini! I completely understand. My Valentine's Day was blown to shit and my SO knows that I have zero intention of spending my birthday with his Kid.
What really did piss me off is that when he is asking if I minded that he keeps him on Monday he said I quote: I'm already blowing him off for your birthday... Unquote. That sentence is stuck in the back of my throat. Not sure that I'm going to let that comment slide.
Wow - Happy Birthday to you
Wow - Happy Birthday to you and your DD, too! Lots of Geminis
I have made a pretty big deal about my birthday in the past, and SO knows this is a point of contention with me. I was wondering what he was going to do about that since it lands on skid weekend, and I guess today I found out. But there were a lot better ways he could have told me that.
I hope you guys have a wonderful weekend!!
mine knows this too... but
Wow. That blows. Huggss to
Wow. That blows. Huggss to you, MissK!
Well, I'm pretty... I'll say
Well, I'm pretty... I'll say verbal, and I sent SO a text, telling him that I thought he could have found a better way to tell me that he wont have DS during my birthday weekend, and that saying "I'm blowing him off for your birthday" probably wasn't the best way to tell me".
That was about an hour ago... Crickets.