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my sd12 always bring up bm Every time she come to visit??

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Submitted by 202stepmom on Sat, 02/23/2013 - 11:21am

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Dirol Ok i know it may not be that serious but im starting to notice
This. It can be something as simple as me buying a new phone case
or ny opinion on something she always brings bm up. It really irritates
me because bm have a new bf and they just had a new baby. my husband
and bm was.always together as the little girl was growing up,i even have a ss10
that is by another bm. So is sd just trying to irritate me?

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Submitted by Orange County Ca on Sat, 02/23/2013 - 11:31am

So you husband has two children via two women. Please don't have any children with a guy with his track record and add a third to the list of step children his 4th wife has.

I doubt if she's doing it to irritate you but more for her own sake. Ignore it without being rude by acknowledgeing it with a "Mmmmm" or "Is that so"?

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Submitted by SMIllinois on Sat, 02/23/2013 - 11:39am

She's not trying to annoy you. She just wants to know BM is important and that you aren't replacing her. I know it's annoying, but you gotta suck it up. You should just remember as an adult you are already validated as a person, she is looking to you for her own place and validation in both sides of the family. Her mom's opinion is imortant to her and when we try to have a conversation with someone we try to draw off of our own experiences. What's her experiences? Her mom.

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Submitted by 202stepmom on Sat, 02/23/2013 - 11:55am

Thanks you guys. I never say anythimg negative and always pits on a fake smile and listen.
I have my own biod so im not trying to replace mom.or anything. I actually try to keep
A distance bcause bm states Every chance she gets that sd is her d.

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Submitted by oldone on Sat, 02/23/2013 - 2:35pm

You people are so much nicer than I am.

My SS is older but without saying a word he knows better than to bring up his mom. At his age I feel totally free to trash her if he wants to drag her into the conversation.

SS is just a young man that I happen to have to spend some time with. I don't need any old hags and thier escapades brought into my home. I never knew him as a child.