Movie It
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So my 13 year old SD wants to see "It" and so do I! We never do anything together just the two of us bc of the other kids, do you think it's ok for me to take her without asking her BM. I know the movie is rated R, but I checked it out and it's for gore and violence. Her BM will probably say no bc she doesn't want SD to do anything with me, but let's her watch whatever she wants at the house, including all scary movies. Need some opinions, I want to take her bc it would be something for just the two of us but don't want to make it a big deal! Thanks!
If BM doesn't want SD to do
If BM doesn't want SD to do anything with you, then why invite drama by taking her to an "R" rated movie that her mother will surely object to?
While you earn points for wanting to do things with your SD, it's obvious her mother is not keen on you doing so. Trust me, BM will make a BIG deal out of it simply to poke her finger in your eye and remind you that your are not the girl's mother.
If your DH wants to take both you and SD to the movie, that's a different story. His kid, his decision. I think if you do it without him, you are asking for trouble - and will get it from BM.
I'm not sure why SD would
I'm not sure why SD would have to ask her mother if she is at your home with her father? So, what does Dad say and think about it? About both. Whether or not SD should check with her Mom (perhaps the parents prefer discussing what they mutually agree is age appropriate and acceptable for their daughter to do/do/read/watch), and also what is Dad's opinion on his daughter viewing the movie with you?
IMO, I think the movie will scare the kid. No idea how old you are, but id you happen to view the tv short series version, maybe when you were a young teen? Take a look on youtube for clips. I just viewed one (after reading your post) and it showed the difference between the theater 2017 death of Georgie and the 1990 tv death.
If it's a bonding thing, SM/SD hanging together thing you're looking for, IMO there are plenty of other type activities the two of you could do. But if it's more that you think it'll be 'fun' to be scared together and you'll be the 'cool' mom for taking her, then I say, no, don't take her.
Her father and you know this girl and whether or not this is something she would but slightly scared but enjoy, or if she would freak the h*ll out everytime she walks by a rain drain for the next five years. Because as with most Stephen King material. it's not just gore and violence, it's a psychological thriller.
She just doesn't scare in
She just doesn't scare in regards to movies, her sister on the other hand does, but she's just not that kid. We just both really love scary movies and so does her BM. Thanks for the input! My DH said we should ask BM, we will see what she says, I'll be ok either way, not worth getting worked up over!
Just ask her Dad! if he gives
Just ask her Dad! if he gives the ok, go for it. My son really wanted to see the movie Child's Play, remember that? With the "doll" Chucky? I let him watch it, he was 5! But he knew Movies were just pretend. No problem. He graduated, has a State job,is engaged and planning to adopt his WTB's 5 yr old. He is now 30. Does BM check with Dad on movies? If dad says ok,....
BMs don't check with dad for
BMs don't check with dad for anything unless they want money.
Yep ain't that the truth
Yep ain't that the truth
Thanks for the advice!
Thanks for the advice! That's what I thought but she's caused so many problems he felt like we should get her input too.
SM is dad's wife or SO and
SM is dad's wife or SO and not BM's wife. SKs have two parents--BM and DH. Your connection to this child is through your husband, and is not through BM. If you are wondering anything about these kids, go to your husband.
I agree, it's just that
I agree, it's just that she'can be a real pain and we would like to avoid problems if at all possible. Thank you!
Because you know it's going
Because you know it's going to cause issues I wouldn't suggest taking her alone. If you really must see the freaky clown movie let DH be the one who takes you and SD to see "It." That way it can be all DH's idea and he can deal w/BM if the shirt hits the fan. I saw the previews and that was scary enough for me! Have fun.
I saw that movie - loved it.
I saw that movie - loved it. There are a few scenes that the casual horror fan will find disturbing and gory (Georgie's death being one of them). There are a few sexual references throughout the movie and lots of dick jokes.