Question could this get DH in trouble??
SS14 recently started playing the video game Call of duty. For those of you who don't follow video games like me I guess this is the most popular video game out there now. Most of SS14 peers play this also. Here are the two issues.. One it's rated 18 plus for violence. It's a first person Shooting game with lots of guns/weapons. Second BM is a TOTAL control freak and flipped out telling DH it's "Unacceptable" in allowing SS14 to play this video games. DH just Ignored her BUT BM is not one to just let things go. I'm sure at SS14 next therapy appointment BM will spend the whole session complaining about what a Terrible father DH is to allow SS14 to play this at our house.
My fear is BM will drag DH to court over this which will mean more attorney costs for us or just to be Inconvenient to DH since DH did not do what she wanted. She has done this before just out of spite.
So my question is could DH get into trouble with the court for allowing SS14 to play this game and/or will SS14 sided with BM about allowing SS14 to play this?
"Most of SS14 peers play this
"Most of SS14 peers play this also." Parents in the past, well my parents and those of my friends, did not use this reasoning to decide what to do. If DH thinks the game is appropriate, he should have no problem explaining his reasoning to the judge.
Will the courts care? Who knows. It depends on the judge and if BM brings up other concerns of DH's judgement that the court finds valid.
Bringing up the inappropriateness of this game for a 14 year old is not spite. SS is 14. Not close to the age rated. There is an option to modify the gore and language. Has DH turned it on?
I don't think he would get in
I don't think he would get in trouble with the courts. Your house your rules. Kinda like a parental guidance sticker on a inappropriate CD. It's like you know you shouldn't let them listen to it but they probably are already doing that at someone else house.
Courts and BM aside, do you
Courts and BM aside, do you both ACTUALLY think Call of Duty is appropriate for a 14 y/o? I would be questioning DHs parenting if he says yes.
I agree with BM on this one.
Who cares what BMthinks
The real ssue is why are u and DH ok allowing a 14 year old to play a game that glamorizes killing? "A first person shooting game with lots of guns and weapons". Do u let him watch hardcore porn too? Post like this make me despair for the future of humanity.
That's quite the leap from
That's quite the leap from Call of Duty to hardcore porn!
BM is a TOTAL control freak
BM is a TOTAL control freak and flipped out telling DH it's "Unacceptable" in allowing SS14 to play this video games.
Control freak or not, it IS unacceptable to allow his 14 son to play this video game.
Would he get in trouble with courts? Who knows, I mean, they may frown upon it but...
That is really beside the point, in my opinion. He is not being a very responsible parent.
Sorry I should have given more information
I don't agree with this BUT have little say in the matter. DH did turn on the Parental controls which allows DH to turn off all bad language and does not allow SS14 to chat with other players.
It is not likely he would get in trouble.
Sadly, being a crappy parent is not illegal.
I think in this situation if
I think in this situation if BM did drag DH to court over this. He wouldn't get in trouble per SE but he certainly wouldn't impress the court with being a responsible guardian or a good coparent since he is ignoring BMs concerns.
I would say around 13/14 is
I would say around 13/14 is when BS's friends all got into call of duty as well. I gave in and let him play. It's a video game. I talked to a few friends parents on their thoughts, DH said that he didn't see an issue with it, but there were other games that have that rating he would not have supported BS playing. I never played video games past the 1st NES and Mario Brothers- I have no desire to learn or care about them, so I listened to those who know.
Your house, your rules. How is it different than letting him watch a rated R movie? Many if not most 14 yr olds have seen a rated R movie- It doesn't make you a bad parent, to each their own. I don't think a judge would care.
All of the parents who are
All of the parents who are saying "I would never let my child play...." Let me tell you, they ARE playing it at their friend's houses and even buying them. "I can't play COD because my mom said so," said no teenage boy ever. I can almost guarantee with 99.9% assuredness that a judge, even BM's lawyer will be doing eye rolls behind her back if she brought this up in court. BM wants to control what her teenage son is doing at all times but it's just not possible. DH really needs to practice Parallel Parenting and stop BM's control at his doorstep and SS needs to stop tattling on himself. Rated Mature and 18+ games are a recommendation. If DH has turned off the blood, gore, swearing, etc. then the game is pretty mild. I let my under 18 kiddos play COD Zombies with their older siblings with all the gore setting off. Guess I'm a bad parent so flame away!
Credentials:
Been through the HELL of family court several times with vindictive ex and his serial wives, judges don't care about most of the minutia of issues brought up!
Have adult and teen sons who played video games and they're all doing well (knock on wood!)
My SS did not play video
My SS did not play video/computer games in our home after about 6th-7th grade. We just had zero patience for the game zombie crap in our home when he would zone out, argue about shutting it off, "but I will lose where I am". so.... they were gone. However, he was certainly playing them at friend's homes and at after school camp, etc.....