Do you Come Here to Vent or to Share or Both
Back from Vacation all and had a great time.....When i come to this site i always wonder if we all come here to Vent, Share, Give advice or what....I just want to throw that question out there this great Monday morning.....
The reason i asked is because my DH ask me all the time about the situation that we go thru with his BM and he and I have great communication about the topic and i feel free to discuss my feelings with him and i support him totally... I just wonder how many of you have the same type of communication with your DH and if so then do you come here just to share....My thougths would be that if you come here to Vent then does that mean that you cant talk to your DH about the BM drama...Also is it true that if you come here to Vent then you and your DH dont see eye to eye on the situation...
Just trying to kick this Monday off with a little inquiring minds want to know...please chime in....
Hi there. I am new here and
Hi there. I am new here and my reason for joining is simply to share and perhaps even gain some wisdom how to make the best of having to deal with an ex whose daughter is a beloved step daughter of my husband. Me and my husband (DH? Not sure what that abbre actually mean. LOL so would appreciate your help.) are very open discussing our issues about her ex. Of course even before we got married we already were in agreement about certain things, that there is no way we will allow her to control our lives, and that our relationship with each other comes first before anything. With this base covered we find it manageable to deal with his ex. Lines have been drawn this early. Should new issues arise in the future then we agreed to cross the bridge when we get there. Meanwhile we will continue to enjoy each other and just be a happy couple. Another reason I joined here is I do not want to unnecessarily burden my husband by talking too much about any apprehensions I may have or feel towards his ex because I do not think he deserves that being the very loving person that he is. See my husband and I have only been married for a little over a month now. I relocated to the US from the Philippines a week before our wedding and so I also need to give myself time to get adjusted to how things are here in US. There is no divorce in my country so dealing with an ex is something not so common there. Also there are not as many fights over custody of a child. In my country the one who messed up generally loses the right to have full custody of a child. Very few even go to the court for this since bringing such case to a court is more stressful since it takes years before a ruling is made. LOL. Actually yesterday I was kinda wondering if I came to the right place joining here since I sense a lot of animosity in many of the posts I already read towards the ex etc. But well I guess that is also one of the purposes of this forums: provide a venue for those struggling with this issue to vent. I hope and pray that things will be better for everyone in this forums though. God bless you and you have a good week.
"God would give up His only Son before He'd give up on you."
by Max Lucado in "Six Hours One Friday"