Dh and I used to have great communication then it kind of dropped off the cliff(we're in therapy to get our skills back). We still talk A LOT but I still like to come here and get a different point of view from my own. I also come here to get 'grounded' meaning I see I could have it a lot worse than I do as far as bm and snowshyte are concerned. Coming here to vent doesn't mean we can't talk to our dh's I think mostly,well, at least in my situation I tend to be VERY harsh and outspoken which doesn't fly in my relationship with DH...he simply doesn't need to know every little thing I think about snowshyte and bm because it's mean and nasty sometimes when i'm in a mood. Communicating with him effectively is different from sharing my nasty,angry frustrated thoughts so that's what I use this site for and sometimes I get the smack down from the ladies about being too harsh and sometimes I am given justification for my angry feelings. Plus I get fabulous advice and lots of good laughs from the likes of many members such as crayon and smj.

The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children. ~Edward, Duke of Windsor, Look, 5 March 1957

DH and I have very open communication about everything, including parenting frustrations and BM problems. He is even a member here on ST. I come here for everything. To learn about others' situations, to get advice, to vent and to share. I don't hide what I vent about - he usually gets an earful before I let it loose here.

Love me or hate me, I'm still gonna shine!!!

communicate openly about our situation with BM and I come here to do all thing Vent, Share, and Give advice when I can

i come to share(get advice mostly) and vent.

DH and i have very open communication and talk very openly about our feelins and issues with bm drama and how it relates to ss. He always, puts my feelings before his, and trys everyday to make me even more happy.

The reason i vent here though is because i feel there are just some things that dh doesnt understand because he infact is not the step parent. There are sometimes that he and i have discused things and im still upset about them, but he cant stand to hear about what he already knows. He knows his ex was nothing but a mistake/accident. He knows she is a pos, he knows that his mother is crazy. These are all things he has come to terms with but im still struggling.

I would rather be hated for who I am, then loved for who I am not.

Dh and I share everything, if you see me vent here, he heard it first. Most often I am looking for other alternatives to situations that dh and I together have not thought about(as sometimes we are just to close to the situation), and other times I come here to give advice. Then there are times I come here to read the different perspectives and views. If there are any I and DH can apply to our own lives, great, if not, its a learning experience non the less.

Ex FH and I had great communication in the beginning. But, over a few months, that started to disappear. Our situation was different, though. He had his kids during our relationship, so there were trust issues, and here we were, tied to this woman forever. Everything she did seemed as a form of punishment for him because of me. And, I had so much stress about it. Even when we stopped talking about it, he knew because I couldn't keep a single meal down. I lost a lot of weight very quickly. That stress of having to deal with her and him not wanting to be reminded of the entire situation is what dissolved what was left of our relationship. I came here for support and advice. I think I only called her a b*tch a few times here.

To every thing there is a season.

While we have a great open communication and pretty much agree on everything, it's still nice to come on here and vent about stressful situations. And it's also nice to come on here and read other people's blogs and realize that i'm not alone!!

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