WOULD YOU FEEL THIS WAY ABOUT CUPCAKES????
So as we all know I do not have a good relationship with BM actually it sucks, so the other day was my SS birthday and his BM made cupcakes to take to school however his school does not allow outside food in, and she knows that but she told my DH who cares what are they going to do if I just show up with the cupcakes, well SS was sick all week and did not go to school the only day BM offered to watch him was on his birthday, and when my DH picked him up he brought home 4 cupcakes and a bag of goodies for our foster daughter, well I was pissed 3 years of her tring to ruin our lives and know she is sending home cupcakes, I hated it, I do not want her cupcakes in my house, or for her to do anything for my foster daughter whom she tried to have taken from our house on 3 occasions. I have no idea why I get so mad but I do and I bitch at my poor DH who says what do you want me to do tell my 5 year old son that we can not bring the cupcakes home or tell BM that they cause a problem, well NO I do not want her to know any of this, I want her to think we are as happy as we are most of the time, I never want her to know she caused a fight between us. Then when my SS said his mommy was taking him to a chocolate factory I stared to cry, I wanted to be the first and my BH says I am sure BM wants to be the first at a lot of things but she can not because we have placement, it is just unfair she seems soooo great it is easy to be great when you do not have to set rules and only see your child 5 days out of the month, My SS was very excited when I told him we were going to the chocolate factory too this summer and that was enough for me, this stepmom stuff is hard, I know I am not his mom but is sucks that he is sick all week and she only offers to take his birthday off to see him, and my poor DH can not win because I would not have been happy if she did take the week off to see him, since we won my SS can finally sleep through the night and I believe it is because he has a routine and he knows where he is falling asleep every night and that is the most I can ask for is for him and my daughter to feel safe in our home, why is that not enough??? HELP!!!!
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If it's any consolation
(and I'm not sure it is):
Your SS is really young. Of course, he loves that his BM brings him to fun places and gives him cupcakes. Anyone who does that is great at that age -- that's why parents have to teach kids not to get into a car with someone who gives them candy.
But when he's older, he will see that it was you and DH that parented him, that gave their all for him. He will see eventually that BM might be his mother, but you're his mom.
It might take 15 years for this to happen, but it will. In the meantime, stay focused on making your family the happy place it usually is for your kids.
Hugs!!!!
BB
- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)
I love the freezer idea!!! I
I love the freezer idea!!! I may be using that one myself
ANTS
LOL - Ants LOVE sweets. You woke up to ants all over the cupcakes. Who left them out? They should have been placed in the fridge. LMBO. We will have to make/buy some more.
Anyone can take the easy way out and blame others. BUT it takes a a person of character to take a look at one's self and actions and own responsibility for their part. ~ ME ~ }:-P
I know I can get rid of them
I know I can get rid of them and I did, I threw them away, and I agree it is not about the cupcakes I just want to stop feeling this way about her and live my life and it is a great one. How do I do that????? Thank you all sooooo much!!!!
Okay so I will not talk
Okay so I will not talk about anything with SS but how do I get over wanting to one up her how do I get over thinking of her everyday, it is like an obsession and I want it to stop without any medical assistance, I am a smart educated women I do not know why I let her get any over on me and she does, is it becauase she is the mom?
no it's because she's way more evil than u
We're normal people and so many of these bm's are completely dysfunctional. Its hard to figure how to 'get over' someone or cause them emotional harm when you're busy working, raising some else's kid and having a life. Many of these crazy bm's have no life and live to torment us because they're small, petty and evil.
Let your skid eat the cupcakes and make the others disappear to the freezer.lol That way ss can enjoy his mom's attentions and you can rest easy that you're not letting her get one over on you.
Good luck. Hugs, LT