Hola, amigas..

My own BD had her first dose of "heartache" (she's 16) of late when she began dating a very nice young man from her school. He chased her and chased her, took her out..unfortunately, he had just broken up with his "girlfriend" of two years, so that young lady didn't take things so well.

So, he decided to cool things off. Not a bad idea, I could only imagine how the mom of THAT young lady felt knowing that her daughter's boyfriend could just dump her before the prom, etc. for "another girl."

I took my daughter and her best friend to see the movie "He's just Not That Into You", and I told them to "watch and learn".
In my daughter's case, this young man who was CRAZY about her just two weeks ago, just stopped CALLING. And TEXTING. Torture for ANYONE, especially for a TEEN going thru this for the FIRST TIME.

MY CASE IN POINT is that AS ADULTS, we face this ALL THE TIME. ANYTIME our MEN (or women) blow us OFF for "someone else" (whether it be an ex-SO or even a CHILD), they really are NOT THAT "into us", are they.

When we are sharing an intimate moment with our SO and, lo and behold, yet another TRAGEDY occurs involving an EX situation, well, they really aren't that "into us" are they.

When I joined this site, I was ready to WALK. SPRINT is probably more like it. I was SO SICK of my life being disrupted by three PUSHING 30 "WOMEN" who could not SURVIVE without calling "daddy" on a regular basis and whining. Who wanted to spend time with "daddy", but I couldn't come (unless, of course, they were expecting GIFTS...daddy is too cheap to buy gifts)

My heart BREAKS for all of you who, not only put up with constant SHIT, but also bear FINANCIAL WOES because you are TRYING SO HARD to be a nice person. Many of you are in TOO DEEP.

THANX to this site, I found my sanity. Luckily, I have a spouse who is TOO CHEAP to invest on ANYTHING but his own interests (our home, etc.) I know one of his Ds (29) is drowning in debt, but he refuses to help her out in a MAJOR way. Per him, she got herself into this, let her get herself OUT. (Whew!!)

"He's just not that into you"...hmmm....I would have bolted almost a YEAR ago had I not found this SITE and stopped the BULLSHIT that I put up with for almost five years. Calling at all hours. Physically placing themselves between me and "daddy" because they were JEALOUS that "daddy" has a new GIRL!!

It has stopped.....that's what I told my daughter. ALWAYS keep that ace in your pocket. STOP waiting for the phone to ring and STOP worrying about what "he" is doing....he isn't calling....I'm sure he didn't get hit by a bus. If he wanted to call, he'd call. GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE, my dear daughter.

And, she (as do you) damn well know, if the adult Ds EVER come first again, then he can be "into them" all he wants....I'm leaving skidmarks...

Just had to vent. Thanx a zillion!! We rule, girls, and don't let ANYONE take that from US!! If they're "just not into us", well THEIR LOSS as far as I'm concerned!!