My boyfriend of almost 5years recently after 4years and 4 lawyers later received his divorce. He has 2 children by his ex a girl 10 and a boy 6. The reason it took so long and so many lawyers was because he was trying to go the no fault way because he also had skeletons in his closet as well but this idiot wouldn't sign the papers for him and gave us hell in the process. But when he decided to try a fault lawyer (because I just couldn't wait for him and I was going to leave) the tables turned the judge saw through her not to mention she couldn't afford a lawyer. His child support was stopped and he got cusdody of the girl (although she lives with his mom who lives next door) and she has the boy. Okay this is where it gets funny BM asks if they can be friends. After all she put us through and all the money we spent. Ok she has agreed to be civil with him but with me that's another situation. In the beginning I tried to be an adult about the situation be this idiot really wanted to be with my BF so she was upset and jealous of me because I was smart, younger, prettier, no kids, and i have a good job. Before the divorce while we were living together and all these crazy phone calls were coming through i demanded that we establish a limit from 9am to 9pm. I thought that this was fair because we have to sleep to and good parents don't let little kids stay up past 9 anyway. Ok calls stopped but this idiot starting calling his cell phone instead. So since the divorce she will only call his cell phone unless im gone (and she knows it) but she will allow the kids to call all times after 9 and she sends text messages in the early morning as well. So one night she made a call about 9:15 that night he was sleep (most times he is) mind you that this is a school night and I sent a text message through his phone stating that the times to call are between 9am and 9pm. A couple of days later she finally questions him about the text saying she wasnt trying to call him her oldest girl was who is not his Biochild but his stepchild his biokids were with us. He comes at me stating that I should not have done that through is phone pretending to be him that i didn't show him respect. Mind you that this is something that we fuss about constantly, I told him because he was never going to handle it so someone had to. I think that she threw a guilt trip on him about that is was the stepchild and so on. I asked him y was he questioning me if he thought that the phone call was worth it or that important y didn't she call the house phone instead. BM knows that if it is an emergency ie if one of the kids is sick, dying, dead, or anything else that classifies as that when in her care to call at anytime. My BF and I have been through a lot not to mention bs from his parents, my parents, and our family members it has been hard. And whenever there's an argument about BM it turns into an argument about what everyone else has done. I am tired and thinking about leaving we are supposed to get married next month but I can't if we still have these issues. I've tried to get him to just concentrate on the problem with BM who will continue to be our problem and not just my problem when we get married. I feel as if i have raised these kids because when we first got together she didn't care anything about them. We couldn't get in contact with her, she would leave the kids anywhere and got upset because the kids always talked about me and wanted to be around me. Now that there are papers that say she has to do this and that or risk going to jail she wants to be my BFs friend but not associate with me and I know thats wrong. Because she is still the same just a tad better but I take care of the kids and help him when i can and Ive told him if Im going to be helping out she needs to act as if she appreciates it to stop trying to keep me out. Crazy will only stop if they are able to move on. I they are upset or jealous they will still continue to be crazy.