My ss6 lives with us full time. He sees his Mom for 4 weeks in the summer and for a week at Christmas and a week in the spring. As you can see, I do the 'mothering'. My husband is helpful in disciplining, but I seem to be "the boss" most of the time. I haven't minded this role until lately. My ss6 has REALLY been getting on my nerves lately. I have noted other people on here saying that 6 can be a very 'annoying' age - I AGREE. On top of that he acts up at school - nothing major but at his school they pull sticks (basically like tally marks) and 3 sticks gets you sent to the principal - my ss pulls 2 almost daily. We've tried a million things to improve this behavior but nothing has worked. Even more recently he's started lying to us about how many sticks he pulls, obviously because he doesn't want to deal with any punishment. So last week he lied about how many sticks he pulled and that was the last straw for me. I took his favorite toy, put it in a trash bag, and told him that his behavior WILL improve and he WILL stop lying or I'm going to throw the toy away. So he has been telling us all week that he's only been pulling 1 stick, and today he told me that he's been lying and he's still been pulling 2 sticks all week.
NOW, he did tell me this - after much prompting and threatening that he BETTER be honest with me. I guess the fact that he finally came clean is SOMETHING, but what do I do about my threat to throw his toy away???? I wish I never made this threat now but I feel like I'm stuck. It's really stressing me out...so I called my husband at work earlier and told him that I don't want to do the disciplining, at least not for a while. I'm over it. Plus I'm pregnant and really don't need this extra stress. Is it wrong for me to step back from all this and let my husband take over? I'm not saying I won't help out, but I don't want to be the decision maker anymore. Is it old fashioned of me to go to a mode of "go ask your father" or "we'll see what your father has to say about this"?????
Any suggestions??