I plan to take your advice and head down to the police station and the courthouse on Monday get some official stuff, but I decided to go for it and paid the $50 for the online background check yesterday. THE BEST $50 I HAVE SPENT IN A LONG TIME!!!

BM was arrested in March of this year for driving while intoxicated. Then a wonderful new friend, (you know who you are and you are an ANGEL!) was able to get me more info and found out that BM's license has been suspended and she is having to make monthly payments toward a yearly surcharge of over $1,000 per year for 3 yrs.!

It's weird that deep down I start to feel a little sorry for her in all her trouble, then I remember she just lied and tried to get DH arrested, and realize she has made her own bed.

It's funny how much starts to make sense when you get the missing piece to the puzzle. Like how she ended up with the sleazy lawyer that pracices family AND criminal law. And that maybe her attorney was not just trying to intimidate ours at the hearing for temp orders when he lied and said he has dirt on DH, and he was really prob. fishing to see if we knew about her DWI conviction. And she left her car in the parking lot of the day care after she called the police because her license is suspended and she is not supposed to be driving at all.

Dh and I are just so surprised at how cocky and difficult BM has been considering her situation. I think if I were in her position I would be begging for mercy and wanting desperately to settle outside of court and not have a judge hear all about the DWI, that my mom and step-dad beat me up and I tried to take my daughter back to live there, that I am currently living with my ex-fiancee's mother and am paying out the but for a car I cannot drive because I didn't have insurance and I loaned it to a looser I was dating that had no job and he ruined the motor and I won't have the money to fix it for over a year. Top it all off with the fact that I have violated the court orders by letting my daughter spend the night at my abusive mother's where she is resticted from going, and by enrolling her in day care after I lied and told the courts one month ago that my G-ma would be keeing her at my new residence just so my daughter's step-mom wouln't get to keep her while I am at work to pay for my own stupid mistake of a DWI. And I called the police trying to get my daughter's dad arrested by lying and saying he assaulted me because he showed me that he had a printed copy of the nudie pic I put on the public part of my own myspace page. And I am so "pissed off" at him and his WIFE!!!

HA,HA,HA,HA! LMAO! I hope you all enjoyed that, I sure did. Sometimes you just have to put yourself in the other person's shoes. And sometimes when you step back into your own, you just have to laugh about it.

I do follow that up by thanking God for all the blessings in our lives and for protecting SD in all of this. And I send up a little prayer for BM that one day she is able to see things in perspective and get her life together.

As always, I would love to hear from you all if you have any input. Dh is thinking there really shouldn't me much to fight about given her situation compared to ours. Nither of us have convictions, we own our own house, we have been married for two years now and I have been a huge part of SD's life since she was born. We have always encouraged SD's relationship with BM, even when she was frequently refusing DH's visitation, and she was welcome to visit SD at our house when she was with us all summer. She did a couple of times, the rest of the time she said she would, but then stood SD up.

I am calling our attorney to tell him of my discovery. I hope he will call BM's attorney and let him know we know about the DWI and he should encourage BM to agree to the changes we want made.
But, I have a fear that we may not be demanding enough. I wonder if the courts would put more restrictions on her to protect SD when in her care than what we are trying to do on our own? What do you guys think?
Thank you all again, and I'm wishing you all a great day!!!

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