So, they didn't meet last week because BM had been on vacation, and even though she got back on Wednesday in plenty of time for their weekly Thursday 6:00pm appointment, she wouldn't return any phone calls to confirm her availability so they cancelled that week. This week, BM made everyone meet in the lobby of her apartment building instead of going up to her apartment, saying that her father had taken over both of their apartments for tax time. Ok...? She was dressed to the nines like America's Next Top Model - makeup, hair, fancy clothes. Next thing you know, the therapists are getting out their video camera, saying they'd be taping this session because it's the review period. Hmm... did BM know in advance that they'd be videotaping? That would explain the extra effort on her appearance and why she wouldn't allow access to her pigsty. Typical.

So, the therapists asked how BM and BF thought things were going and BM launched into "well, I'm having no trouble communicating, but BF sure is!"

After she'd had her piece, BF responded by saying that it's imperative to discuss matters not in front of SD, that at pick-ups and drop-offs it is inappropriate to discuss plans or other matters because it puts SD in the middle and makes her uncomfortable, or worse, causes her great distress when it gets heated. He said that he has begged BM to contact him via email so that SD doesn't have to be subjected to it, but that BM still demands to know every detail of our weekend's plans when we're picking up and it often causes a scene.

BF brought up how BM had behaved abhorrently at the pickup 3 weeks ago and BM shot back that yes, she knew that he'd already discussed it with the therapists and that the therapists brought it up with BM's psychiatrist and how inappropriate it was to go behind her back like that. She got very defensive, saying that her psychiatrist says she's in remission, she's stable, not manic. She did not apologize for the way she'd acted that night. She said that she acted that way because BF was not communicating, and that she was in complete control of herself. She would not take responsibility for her behavior and said repeatedly that it was BF's fault. She even went as far as to have her psychiatrist put in writing that she was a good mother. Well, I guess she's pulled the wool over that quack's eyes! Just the fact that she had him do that shows just how afraid she is of losing custody.

BF also brought up how BM had tried to make him out to be uncooperative during the conversation on Tuesday about SD's meds by saying 4 times that she'd hoped he'd support SD's psychiatrist's decision after he'd confirmed 4 times that he did indeed support it. Again, he said that having that discussion in front of SD should never have happened. When BM found out on Monday about the medication change, she should have emailed him the information so he could digest it on his own and get back to her. Instead, she waited to dump it on him in the parking lot at pick-up AND drop-off the next day and tried repeatedly to instigate an argument over it in front of SD. BM still stands by her claim that she was doing a good job at communicating with him about an important medical matter.

One thing that BM brought up was that after SD's Wednesday night appointment alone with therapists, the therapists weren't gone 2 seconds and SD came sobbing to BM saying that she was afraid that the therapists were siding with BF and planning to take her away from BM. BM said this with an accusatory glare at BF and said, "any idea where she'd get this idea, BF?" He said no, because we obviously haven't told SD anything of the kind. He said, "maybe the therapists would be better people to ask that question." All the therapists said was, "yes, we have an idea where this came from" and left it at that. I wonder what went down in that session. BF suspects that SD, of her own volition, told therapists exactly what they needed to hear to know that SD is not safe with BM and then turned around and told BM what she would want to hear, which is that she doesn't want to be taken away from her, when in reality that is exactly what she wants.

I think this was a very good session to have on tape.