More controlling BS from DH's eldest daugther
So after the fiasco of weekend before last when I told DH I would not be going to any more events that his eldest daughter arranged any time soon...well, that was short lived! Grrrrr!!!
So SSIL hired a friend of DH and I, on DH's recommendation to SSIL. All this is good, great position and this individual is more than up for the challenge. Happy for everyone involved, and now this friend is in town for I'm assuming his training and orientation at the new company.
While he's here he requested to see DH & I along with SSIL
Soooooo, DH tells me earlier in the week that he received a text from you know who. His eldest daughter of course :sick:
So she tells DH we can all meet up at a restaurant for dinner during the week, or go to their place for dinner on the weekend. I did not want to agree, but then why should I not get to see my good friend just because DH's daughter is acting like a controlling bitch
So DH tells her that the weekend works better for us and we'll come by then
Then his daughter comes back saying no the weekend won't work :? Grrrr!!! and it has to be Thursday night and they'll meet us at a restaurant
This ticked me off as weekend before last after attending the big event DH's daughter insisted we go to, she then insisted we go out for lunch, then when DH suggested a place to eat that was not fancy but certainly fine she insisted on another restaurant - very pricey - and she ordered up a pile of appetizers before lunch so seriously, who is she to dictate all this crap? Did I say Grrrrrr!!!!!!!
I finally told DH that we will host the dinner in our home Thursday evening - yes DH's eldest daughter can drive all the 45 minutes to our place if she wants to come. Also told DH he did a lousy job of supporting me last time so I'm not holding out hope he'll do any better this time...of course DH assured me he will 'keep an eye on her behaviour' Ya right, good one 
If this person weren't also a friend of mine who I would like see, think I would tell dh and his daughter to shove it
I will enjoy cooking a nice meal, entertaining (everyone but her that is who I won't pay the slightest attention to other than basic hello, pass the pepper please and good-bye) and if she and DH know what's good for them, she had better not start her crap because she will totally be put in her place by me
Way too funny anyname I
Way too funny anyname
I know....there is absolutely NO REASON for DH's eldest to be part of this dinner - she doesn't even know our friend!
But for course, any dinner DH and I have with our friend along with SSIL, well I guess DH's daughter must insert herself into the event.
In fact, not only insert herself, but then start dictating the time, place, date, menu, topic of discussion. Seriously! Enough already.
I finally took charge, since this does effect me too, and TOLD DH not asked, that the dinner will be held at our place. If DH's daughter insists on being part of it well she can just drive all the way here this evening. I decided what the menu will be and I will cook what I like, talk about what I like, and pay no attention whatsoever to DH's eldest
Exactly catlettuce The
Exactly catlettuce
The dinner is this evening and I wondered the same thing...what type of BS DH's daughter has already started to drum up about DH and definitely me, with our friend
Also I'm sure DH's daughter is already walking around with even more of an attitude considering she is now the wife of the boss of our friend :sick: someone as power-tripping as her would totally get off on that
Yes it should be an interesting evening....a big bottle of wine definitely in order!
>Odd that she even wanted to
>Odd that she even wanted to be there.<
No, not really.
They like to try and control things.
Mine always wants me around in the name of famileeee, but really the only reason she wants me around is so I'm a captive audience for her abuse. She gets really mad when I refuse to participate and receive the aforementioned abuse.
She has some difficulty being one on one-always has to be surrounded by her posse(relational aggression army)who back her up on everything.
Actually it went super well
Actually it went super well luckymomme (for me anyway
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Sorry I posted a whole update on it in another thread but to make a long story short, had a fantastic evening with our friend who couldn't have been happier to see us and have dinner with us. And I pretty much completely ignored DH's daughter....she is starting to see I think that she has absolutely no power over me any longer and that I simply am not troubled by a whole lot she does any longer
Little SGS was just the sweetest all evening too, didn't leave my side to the point where even DH's daughter commented on how much SGS adores me, not that she had any choice at that point, she would have looked very silly continuing with all the usual alienation tactics when absolutely everyone including our good friend could see how much the child wants to be around me
All in all - a success!