SIL made a comment to a post I put on my daughter's facebook when I tried to explain what the post meant (she was WAY OFF base on it), she got mean and very personal. I took it private and asked what was up because I was clueless. She just got even more snide. I elt Dh read it all. So he called her and she called back a day later. It got VERY ugly, very quickly as she called me a cold hearted b!&*^!!! DH got very upset with that and told her he was going to drive up and they would talk about it face to face. She quicly backpedaled. He asked her to explain herself repeatedly. She kept changing the subject. he kept puttin her back on track. to sum it all up:

SIL said that SS told her that we never did ANYTHING for him and he lived under gestapo rule. When asked to explain she said SS told her we NEVER went to his band gigs or did anything. DH stated she was at ONE of the band gigs that we were at and that we had been to every one of them until he moved out. SIL has personally caught SS in lies he was telling as she was present when the exact opposite happened. DH reminded her of these events. Dh ahs asked SIL to not interfere with his relationship with his kids because she supposedly always tells them they need to call their dad, etc. etc. Well DH told her to stop it. So she told SS that his dad wants NOTHING to do with him. DH said he never said that. She said well that is what you meant!!! SIL said she is done with SD now though.

SIL said we live next door to their parents and we NEVER invite them to our family functions. Which DH told her you know that is also not true as you ALL have been invited to every family function and NEVER attend because they all have an excuse. The only family that does come is my side of the family. They have been invited every year for the past 8 years to Christmas dinner. Before last year when they had their own, his family would come and grab and plate of food and take it next door to eat. And their mom has not ever come so they make her a plate and take it to her. They also come over and get themselves an alcohol drink too. they have never contributed to anything for Christmas.

SIL said DH's other sister is upset because when we were out of town over father's day weekend, she had come over and tried to give our OD some leftover food. But she tried the door and it was locked and she knocked but OD did not answer. When DH said that OD was not even home that day, SIL said he was lying because there was A car here. HELLO, we have FIVE cars. Od was with her friend shopping that day is the truth though. We had talked to her earlier in the day because she was asking DH's size. SIl doesn't believe him.

SIL is also upset because our dogs are NEVER fed or watered. DH told her we feed them in the evening and they have THREE water tubs around our house. But no they are always hungry! Dh told her they always act hungry but if you look at their food bowls, 90% of the time there is food in it. He said he doesn't even know how that is a concern of hers because it isn't like she is ever here.

SIL also said we should visit every day because we live next door. He told her we both work full time on the railroad, we have a teenage daughter who is in school and in involved with sports and volunteering, and we are busy as well. She said that doesn't matter because we are right there! BUT, she can only visit every other week because she has a 9-4 job, five days a week, a house to keep up on and a husband. In Dh's defense, he sees his dad every day! his dad comes to the fence all the time. On the other hand, his mom he only sees once or twice a week because he has to go sit there. He said she just nags and complains the whole time.

So DH gets off the phone because she hangs up and he is shaking and so angry. he told me he doesn't think we will even be mnaking an attempt to attend his parents anniversary dinner. he is tired of his family's crap. And that he still supports my decision to not go visit his mom because of the hateful things she has been saying to me.