repost: Get your ass out!!!!
I can't take it anymore
Usually, I'm posting about SD15, not this time! SD20 and her 2 kids live with us (started as an emergency situation, then after she moved in told us she was 5 months pregnant- she's tiny and was not showing at all....we were livid) needless to say SD 20 her 3 year old and almost 1 year old live in our house and make everyone miserable. She doesn't watch her kids, either they are crying, ruining something or she is screaming at them-I'm not exaggerating. She broke up with the drug addict father so now she is at our house EVERYDAY, morning, night, non-stop. we get no break from her or her kids.......fuck my life.
She is selfish, immature and has NO BUSINESS being a parent to 1 child let alone 2. And we have to sit back and watch her horrible parenting skills-we say stuff, she doesn't care. She thinks she knows it all. She doesn't help clean, do laundry (towels etc) vacuum, mop floors,dust, clean the bathroom NOTHING, has no responsibility FDH tells her to do stuff she doesn't do it. She lets her kids go wild and doesn't watch them while she's on her lap top or laying on the couch.
I'm not a F*ing maid and I'm sure the hell not cleaning up after another adult and their f"ing kids!!!!! (and I went on strike a month ago!!)
*just venting here*
Want to know a few examples????
LAst week she left her 3 year old outside when she came home, he climbed the fence and was in the neighbors pool (3 ft deep). My daughter made him put a lifejacket on and he was swimming over there, She had NO IDEA!!! He could've drowned!! Why is my 8 year old who was playing with her friend taking the responsibilty to take care of her 3 year old bc his mom doesn't watch him.???? So f'd up, my FDH barged in her room and was yelling at her telling her her son is in the neighbors pool and could've drowned bc she's not watching him! She didn't even care, she was pissed my FDH yelling woke the baby up from her nap.... WOW. Oh yea, and her kids are ALWAYS sick. UGH!!!!
Another example?
I walk in from lunch with my friend yesterday, Her 3 year old had his pants down with his little weiner out in the back yard and was by himself...we have no fence!!! WTF??? I walk in the back door like " hello?? did you know he is out here with his pants down?? And.....There's the baby at the top of the steps!!!! No mom in sight! the baby has already fallen down a few stairs months ago while we were at work bc she wasn't being watched by her mother. Her parenting skills are atrocious! I could go on for days!!!! I'll spare you the rest.
WELL I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE.
I went up to my room and closed the door, feeling miserable that I'm in this situation and how the hell did this happen? The baby screams and cries all the time, the baby was screaming for atleast 20 min. She just left her crying on the floor............FDH comes in the room and was like " F*** I can't take that crying anymore!!!" I just looked at him and FREAKED OUT-
"why the hell are you, I and BD locked up in our room with the window AC on and the tv volume up bc we can't take listening to her yell at her kids or her kids crying all the time???????" We have the entire house and here we are. How f'd up is this" and I finally told him " How much are you willing to sacrifice bc you don't want to be the asshole dad?? BC our relationship is on the line I can't do this anymore, When I come home from work and I know she's home, I don't even want to come home anymore, They are causing stress and tension for everyone in the house and I'm sick of being miserable in our home. She doesn't help with shit, doesn't watch her kids and has NO consideration or respect for anyone in this house and I'm done. Either give her a move out date or I'm getting my own apartment"!!!!!
I was damn serious and I'm at my breaking point, Damn that felt good. It it's not just me bitching, this was a serious conversation and Her ass has got to go, either her or me, and I'll be fine with either choice you make.
So....we had to compromise- Originally he told her when she's done with school she will have to move out.......Ummmmm thats way to long and she's been milking that shit. So we decided the end of spring semester in MAy, no if's and or but's and if she has no where to go thats on her bc she has 9 months to figure her shit out. Her last day of spring semester is the last day she is in our home.
He called his ex and told her what our plan was and said SD20 is gonna call you about how awful we are, thats fine, we can't take it anymore she is ruining my relationship with goincrazy and we want our own lives, it's time for her to grow up- it was her decision to have 2 kids and if she's adult enough to do that then shes adult enough to get her own place, be a responsible parent and not rely on everyone else, and if exwife has a problem with it then SD20 and her kids can move in with her!!! Surprisingly, his ex agreed and said she's been telling her to move out for awhile bc she is an adult (apparently SD20 has been complaining about living in our house- ungrateful bitch). She said she can go apply for emergency assistance and doesn't blame us for our decision. And doesn't care if SD20 calls her crying she will tell her the same thing. (doesn't matter anyway, but atleast we are on the same page for once)
So SD20 is gonna be a big bitch to everyone and cry and pout that we kicked her out- I do not care, I'm the biggest bitch And while it's not soon enough for her to get her and her cryin ass kids out, we have a move out date and it's less than a year! And it was also made VERY clear under NO circumstances will she be moving back. FDH says 2 years is more than enough and he did his part. It's time to move on!!!
I can hardly wait!!! woooooooooooo hooooooooooooo!!!!!
WE are so good to the kids
WE are so good to the kids and we don't blame them at all. WE blame their mom! And part of the reason she's just leaves her kids is bc we are always around but she doesn't even say anything! She's in her own selfish world and she needs to wake up and come to reality and deal with her own kids. And no, I haven't called CPS, I'm not making excuses for it but I haven't. I feel really bad for her kids but I'm glad they have us there for now.
yea, her kid could've drowned and she was mad FDH woke the baby up from her nap :jawdrop:
I have no idea how I've done
I have no idea how I've done it this long, it really hasn't gotten this bad until the baby started being on the move, plus she used to be at her boyfriends parents atleast 3 days a week so we got a break. And the boy had pants on but pulled them down-not any better but just clearing that up.
I hope I can make it too, we did tell her starting NOW things need to change including taking better care of her own kids and helping around he house. Being a responsible parent etc. and if she doesn't like it she can leave now. It's really hard bc we can't MAKE her do anything, and bc she was a teen mom she had to take parenting classes to be on some assistance she got for her baby. The problem is, she doesn't listen to anyone and thinks she knows it all.
I will be counting the days weeks and months. I'm glad he is putting his foot down, it's frustrating it has to get to this point.
If she doesn't care about
If she doesn't care about progress she makes why should I? If we don't kick her out she will continue to live this way and expect that everything is handed to her. There's a time to grow up and take responsibility for the decisions SHE made.
I could really care less what people (are you referring to other family members?) think or if they feel sorry for the kids. If they felt that bad they would take them in theirselves and I don't see anyone offering bc they they don't want to deal with an adult kid and her 2kids she doesn't watch or take good care of in their home.
HE called x to let her know what was going on and his kids are manipulators and don't tell the truth so he put her in the loop and told her if she has no place to go then she can move with her. I'm sure he does feel responsible for them, he's been taking care of them. It's not that we stopped caring it's that we are beyond FED UP.
If she doesn't change then she can leave earlier, Doesn't matter, when school is done she's out of my house. She needs to take reponsibility for her and her childrens lives.
After you've called CPS you
After you've called CPS you leave and do not look back. The very fact that your no longer FDH is not doing anything gives you a hard look into your future. Kids never go completely away so you must put up with this type of drama for the rest of your life or go.
wow.... we need to be
wow.... we need to be friends. i'm dealing with something similar but not quite as bad. sorry you are going through this.