not a step any more
I moved out 10 days ago. I posted a few weeks ago that I was moving out and it was not my idea. My SO wanted to move into her new house with her kids first and get settled before I MIGHT be asked to move in.
Since this, she has come over once for two hours. She has not invited me to her new place at all. She has not asked me to do anything with her and the kids or even just her.
We all went to a friends house for dinner Saturday night because all of our friends are assuming (because she tells them) that we are all very much still in each others lives.
I don't feel like this is the case. Is it too soon? She is busy with getting her house set up. She has also invited her ex and the kids over to her house Friday night because her daughter has been asking her too.
Is it over but I am in denial?
Is this normal?
Some of you said you live separately from a SO with kids. Did you transition from living together? Did things change drastically.
I feel like we are barely dating.
Hate to say it is over -
Hate to say it is over - sorry!! If her Ex has been to the new house and you have not that says a lot - sounds like you will be better off so as much as it hurts it is time to move on!
Sounds like it is over with
Sounds like it is over with and she just doesn't have the balls to tell you. Just pull the bandaid off and find someone who will treat you better...
You are free to find someone
You are free to find someone new. Think of it that way rather than "it's over." It's time for a new beginning. Have fun doing it.
I have a gut feeling that she
I have a gut feeling that she is trying to reconcile with the ex. Have you ever had that sense?
Either way, I'm really sorry. She has moved on. She just didn't have the balls to tell you. Can I suggest that you try to meet with her and get some closure on this? Then you need to go find someone without kids. LOL. But seriously, just do it.
You are all right in many
You are all right in many ways.
She is trying to reconcile with Ex but not in a romantic way. She feels guilty about her divorce. She does not want him back but she wants to repair things between them so they can still raise their kids together but in separate homes. She loves me but she feels a lot of guilt associated with our relationship. She left her husband for me. She actually kicked him out. She (and I agree) we got into things too seriously too quickly. Too soon after her divorce and too quickly with kids involved.
She wants to start over. She wants to live separate, leave the kids out of our relationship and have a weekly date to start.
I want to know if anyone has tried this sort of thing. Most of my friends say to throw in the towel. I am not sure I am ready. Some are telling me to give it some time and let things run there course. None have any experience in anything close to this.
Everyone here may be right.
Everyone here may be right. And they could be wrong...
It is hard to imagine how busy she might be with having kids and moving into a new house, when you have no kids and don't have so much distracting you right now. Given what you have said about the start of your relationship, I would wait a couple of weeks and see what plays out. I do think it's odd that she hasn't invited you over. But I can also see where she might need some time to sort through everything she is thinking and feeling since you two jumped into your relationship. I can also see where she used you as an excuse to quit her marriage, which kinda makes you the rebound guy. Why couldn't she just tell him she wanted a divorce and THEN date? Seems she is doing the same thing to you. You won't know until you ask.
Cut all ties and move on.
Cut all ties and move on. She had no problem tossing her husband out for you. How can you ever trust her?