I REFUSE to let her move in.
I'm the bad guy right now but that is perfectly fine with me. SD29 had an eviction hearing on Monday. She won't tell us what happed but says that she wants to move her and her 8 yo DS in with us. When DH told her once again, our stand on that issue, she asked for money. Dh said that he would "see what he could do." I said NO WAY. We have given her too much money already. Any money we give her is NOT going to solve her problem so what would be the point?
So now she's posted some crap on FB about how she has to move back to Calif. and back in with her mother and that it is all DH's fault. I think that moving back in with her mother is a fine idea! Too bad it isn't in China.
He has told her that she has to get another job, either a second job or a better paying job. She says that she doesn't have time. But, she only works part-time! She could also get a cheaper place to live but she won't do that either. Instead of sovling her own problems she'd rather ask for handouts and then when we don't give them, all her problems become our fault.
At least DH is holding the line and not allowing her to move in. If he faulters I'm going to tell himt that if he wants to live with her that he can do it elsewhere but not in my house. This is one thing that I refuse to give one inch on. I have given in so many times in the past, but not this time.
The problem is that I have anxiety about retaliation. BM has already threatened to try to get me fired by calling my work to tell them that I am on drugs. I keep worrying about what they are going to do next that will reek havoc in my life.
If you're not on drugs why do
If you're not on drugs why do you care what BM does? I'd file a complaint with your local PD and take a copy to your job. That way if she ever does call, you have it on record that she is harassing you. As far as SD29 goes, the best thing she does is move her ass to California. Good riddance!
Don't buckle to her threats.
Don't buckle to her threats. If she calls your job w/any foolishness, you can sue her for defamation. Let her know that so she won't think she's intimidating you by her antics.
Hold your ground on not letting SD move in. It's a nightmare you don't want, trust me. I just got mine out at the ripe old age of 27.
Do not let her in! You will
Do not let her in! You will never get rid of her, trust me. After SS23 fianlly moved out (after taking over my house for 7 months) I told DH that I never want him living here again! I don't care if I hurt his feelers or not! Him being here made mine and my kids' lives miserable. His level of self-entitlement was astounding! Thought my DH owed him the shirt off his back, because he divorced SS23 fat, stupid mom. 20 years ago!!! WTF?
Yes please for the love of
Yes please for the love of God, definitely stand your ground on this. If she isn't willing to get a fulltime job or get a cheaper place to live, then it is HER fault. Do NOT let your DH give in to her whims. She sounds like somebody who really needs a reality check. It's time to grow up!! If you give in to her, I can promise you that it won't help the situation, and that will enable to her to continue to work part-time, plus you will be watching her kid all the time when she wants to go out. Hold your ground!!!
Good for you and DH for
Good for you and DH for standing your ground. As for retaliation, if BM or anyone else calls work you file a police report. That is completely unacceptable. You don't f*&^ with my job and my money.
Awwww-isn't it cute??? Mommy
Awwww-isn't it cute??? Mommy is thwowing a tempuh tantwum because her BWAAAAAAAAATTT (brat) got evicted and she doesn't want to take her in? Well guess what-mommy didn't have to do that. My steppunk 19 was homeless and now he's living in a trailer park. He survived! And if SD didn't want to be homeless she should have thought about that before making poor-ass choices.
If I were you, I'd block my caller ID so you catch her (bm) more by surprise, and say this (feel free to quote me-in fact, revel in your glee
"name, this is trystme. I will say this ONE TIME, so listen up. Your childish behavior is not getting to me ONE. SINGLE. BIT. YOU raised this girl, if YOU think it's everyone else's job to pick up her messes you are more than welcome to do so-but it's not my responsibility. So honey as far as I'm concerned you can take your temper tantrums and SHOVE THEM UP YOUR ASS!!!" Buh-bye now-I've got margarita mix in the freezer. Don't bother calling, your number will be blocked very shortly! Enjoy your mother and daugher time!"
It's time for her to grow up.
It's time for her to grow up. As long as her fits and trantrums get her what she wants she will not have to make it on her own. Don't buckle to this, she has to figure it out.