I am guessing I am not the only one with these feelings, and I want to know how other women think and feel about sex as SM. For those of you who are like me, ignored, sloppy seconds, totally ignored tag-along when skid is around....the orbiting satellite of the parent/child sun. Anyway, you know who you are I feel like the only thing that BF would not prefer to do with skid is (obviously) sex. He would rather talk to him, sit with him, cuddle with him, go to a movie with him, dine with him, vacation with him....I could continue forever. When BF and I do something great together alone, I can almost count the moments until I hear "lets do this again....with skid!" Oh gee, BF, lets, sigh. We can be literally thousands of miles from home on a romantic getaway vacation, and I hear, "skid would really enjoy this." Anyway, then there is the only adult thing....sex. When skid goes to bed (ie after they are done cuddling and giggling on the couch until midnight) and BF finally comes to see me, hiding out alone in the bedroom, he wants one thing. You guessed it. Honestly ladies, I feel such revulsion! This man is gorgeous and sexy, but the fact that he doesn't give me shit until skid is gone and then wants sex? It makes my skin crawl. I am not the type to withhold sex to punish a man, but it is a feeling an it is hard to even pretend like I have any interest. On the other hand, and this is my question, I could see how some woman would take the complete opposite mental approach. If sex is the ONLY thing that is truly between you that has nothing to do with skid, the only thing he wants to do only with you, the only time skid doesn't creep into his mind, the only true alone time....shouldn't sex then be our favorite thing? Shouldn't we embrace it as ha ha I have him now? In a way, as women, sex is our power. I don't know the answer. Its a vast difference, being totally revolted by sex versus embracing it as our most treasured connection. If I embrace the later approach, we would both me a lot happier, but it is hard to convice my body and brain of that. Please share.