This is a question for those like me, 50/50 custody of skid with the the biobitch living nearby. The custody is supposed to be every week, Monday to Monday. Life with SS is unbearable for me. My husband forgets that I exist, wines and dines SS, chauffers him around like royalty, and spends money on him like he is Donald Trump. It is beneath skid to bother speaking to me (which my husband contorts and blames me for skid's rudeness), so I am basically a ghost in my house. Needless to say I live for the other 50% of time in which I have a semblance of a life. My issue is this....how much say should I have in this schedule? Monday to Monday is rarely Monday to Monday because biobitch always finds something better to do when it is her week to deal with her offspring. Plus, now that the kid is in his late teens, he realizes that it is much easier to manipulate dad than mom. Dad is basically his slave and totally blind to the real nature of his kid. Mom, although I shudder to ever say anything good about her, is actually right in that she thinks an able bodied teenage male should work for some of his money and do something more productive with his life than embedding himself into a chair in front of the TV for 13 hours straight while sucking down gallons of soda. So in addition to biobitch asking for constant favors and changes to the schedule, SS now is soooo very interested in spending quality time with his beloved father (ie. more sitting on ass and less nonesense about getting a job), and my sucker of a husband is soooo flattered that his teenage son loves him so much and so values his bonding time (major eye roll). Basically skid is requesting lots of schedule changes now too to avoid his mother and keep living the life of a pampered prince with his dad. I have told my husband until I am blue that he needs to ask me before he agrees to change the schedule. I base my life, my hopes, my sanity on knowing which days I am skid free. I have no kids myself and put up with all of this skid crap, and it really hurts my feelings that my husband wouldn't at least try to make it as painless for me as possible. Should I have to explain to him why I should have a say in the schedule? Lately he has been acting like Mr. Alpha male A-hole who can do whatever he wants and I can just suck it up and deal with it. He makes his decisions about the schedule with the skid and with the ex and I am later informed of the changes. To me that is so wrong. It is my house. I earn half of the income. The skid is a kid who doesn't pay the mortgage and shouldn't be making household decisions, and the ex has an EX in front of her name for a reason. Am I wrong here? Anyone else feel hopeless and powerless about the skid schedule? Advice?