How many or our SOs know how we really feel about their kids?
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I just posted in my blog that I accidentally let forth to my SO with a spew of what I think of his daughter (although I did leave out some of my uglier thoughts).
I know we vent here in the safety and empathy of step-parents in our own shoes...but for those of you with negative feelings toward your skids, how many of you think your DH/DW/DF/BF/GF/SO (did I cover all the flavors?) truly know the extent of your feelings about their kid(s)?
Am I the only insensitive monster?
My SO knows exactly how I
My SO knows exactly how I feel...I finally exploded after one too many times of him saying "but if you're with me, you've got 6 kids!!"...I am now allowed to be open with him on how I'm feeling about any one of his children...I have to be more careful about what I say about the little one's though as they live with us
BTW, he considers his XSD14 one of his 6...only 4 are biologically his.
I should interject...I also
I should interject...I also privately talk to SO about the things that bug me about my own bio-kids. So while I am honest about the shortcomings of my own kids, should I have to sugar-coat what I think about what his kids do?
My DH knows exactly how I
My DH knows exactly how I feel about The Twit.
I think he knows; the past
I think he knows; the past past couple weeks I have let it rip!! I am fed up w/ her sh****. I think he gets the jist to just leave me alone about her! I don't think he knows how long I have felt this way and how truley unhappy I am/was since she has been living with us.
I think if I was truly
I think if I was truly BLUNTLY honest about my four adult skids, we'd probably be getting a divorce. Not because I'd be wrong, but I would be indirectly saying she was a lousy parent raising her four girls. So because of that, and because I love my wife, I'll never come out and say how her four daughters are all dumb, ignorant, inconsiderate, still sucking on mama's titty, welfare high school dropout retards who can barely tie their own shoes w/o their mama helping them. She knows to some extent how I feel about them, but not the cold-hearted truth.
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Ha ha ha ha! Tell us how your
Ha ha ha ha! Tell us how your REALLY feel... lol
(edited to say your situation isn't funny...sorry about that...just something in the way you just let loose with that description made me chuckle)
LOL, oh it's okay to
LOL, oh it's okay to laugh...sometimes I just have to laugh as well. Four adult SD's and only one graduated from high school. The one that DID graduate had to do so from an alternative school (which I don't consider a real school because they let the kids pick their own sorry classes and there are actually couches for them to sit on) because she was kicked out of her regular school. ALL of them have kids and all got pregnant before the age of 20. I'm afraid to hug them for too long or they might get pregnant. I think that 2011 is the first year since I've been here (almost 5 years) that one of them is not pregnant, but the year is only half over.
ALL of them are on some type of cash assistance, welfare, and/or food stamps.
frustratedstepdad, I feel the
frustratedstepdad, I feel the same way... I my adult SS is a nightmare and can't take care of his own damn self at his age, let alone his g/f and baby... If I make too much of a point to that, it indicates that my husband did something wrong raising him (which, in reality he did!)
That is a great question.
That is a great question. Thanks for asking it. I love the replies. I had to stop drinking at all because it loosened my tongue and it was getting way too ugly. Now I am 100% sober and the zipper is tight on my lips. Not that it really matters though because BF has already decided that any attempt at adult time or any discipline for skid, or any slight suggestion of chores (can you imagine, a 12 year old with chores? :jawdrop: ), or god forbid, a bedtime, any attempt to make skid a responsible person with a role in life except getting fat and playing video games, all stems from the fact that I hate his kid. Can you belive...the other day I suggested that skid get the mail on his way into the house, and I acutally got the "why do you hate my kid?" speech for it. Good grief! Or this is good too....skid promised to water plants for 5 minutes a day, leaving only 11.55 hours left to sit on his butt. Then he didn't do it. I calmly mentioned this to BF, who proceeded to tell me that it was okay that he wasn't doing it and it was my fault for not showing him how! Lets see. The child is in junior high, almost a teenager. Step one: turn on hose. Step two: stick in pot containing plant. Step three: turn off hose. DONE. I am such the demanding bitch aren't I? Did I mentioned his boy is in the gifted program??
My DW knows exactly how I
My DW knows exactly how I feel about SS20 and SD17, but I repeat myself frequently in case she forgets!
Yep, he knows and I do
Yep, he knows and I do reinforce it every now and again, but really all I have done is give him more ammunition for when we row about SD21..... Sigh......
Even when we sat down with over 40 pages of terrible lies, AND went to meet complete strangers in their home( her deluded bf of the time parents ) to confront her lies there, he still hardly did anything about the situation apart from the original month long punishments.... Even when he read the terrible things she had told people about him that he almost threw up ????
I'm sorry if your child, 18 at the time, living with you and being supported by you had these sort of major psychological problems wouldn't you be running her to therapy, AT LEAST ???!!??
These Dads know, yes they know, but he'll just continue to ignore it........
an eight year old that has
an eight year old that has the skills of a five year old. the Mister knows it himself, and asked me to excuse it since "he's always with his mother, and she is borderline retarded."
no really. she was hit by a truck. she's a lady forest gump. not allowed to drive or anything.
at least she handles the kid and he lives there. she's a decent mother, just stupid. and the kid's abilities reflect it.
in short yeah I've told him. he also knows I don't like kids in general.
My guy knows if I never see
My guy knows if I never see them again it's all good with me.
That goes for the hideous boot of a BM, too....throw in their in laws, too.
yep...husband knows for certain how I feel. And.....he sees most of what I see, sadly.
Hey joanie...every now and
Hey joanie...every now and then I do something stupid, not often, but sometimes.....wow...wish I had an excuse like I was hit by a truck instead of just being myself.
I find it hard not to laugh
I find it hard not to laugh about. but she literally was truck struck. and I've been told she was not the sharpest knife in the drawer before that, either.
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