W have just completed our third visit with BM. I was really busy this weekend so I didnt really hear much of what they did but I am getting really annoyed with one thing. Maybe I am being a control freak but this really irritates me. I have told the boys and BM has been told already twice that the clothes the boys come in are ours we bought them and they need to come home in them. If she wants to buy the boys clothes great but they do not come over here either. She is suing my SO for spousal support but she doesnt pay child support?? They have been separated for four years and she is dragging this thing out. Due to the spousal support issue we try to make sure everything is separated. I do not want to hear her in court saying she supplies all their clothes or anything like that. Most of the clothes she buys them are t shirts which again is fine but even if we would allow the clothes in our house they couldnt wear them to school because they have to wear collared shirts so these t shirts really arent that important. Regardless of that little rant I just went through my real issue is that every visit they come home is something she buys them. I dont understand what the boys dont get and what she doesnt get. Yesterday they all came in shirts she bought them and asked why did you bring those here? The boys said their mom said she would wash their shirts because she took them to get a hair cut and there was hair on them.......ok so Sunday I send them to her in the shirts from the day before making sure she gives them back the clothes that we bought. They come home with clothes but they arent wearing them they are wearing her shirts!!!!! WTF So again I ask why? They said they changed into the shirts but that she said they were dirty again. They ate some hamburger helper and some food got on their shirts what 3-9 year old doesnt get food on their shirt? If I made them change everytime a little food go on their clothes I would be doing laundry every five min! Its something so small so little and I do not get it. Am I being ridiculous I just do not want their to be an overlap because her and my SO do not have a great relationship so if it seems like she is being helpful that normally means she is getting a payoff somewhere down the line.