Child Support During Summer When Custody is 50/50?
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DH is trying to work out the details of the custody modification. SS lives two hours away so we only have him every other weekend during school months. However, during the months of June and July, we have him half of each month and have to pay for child care & vacations while he is with us. My question is this, has anyone ever had any experience with visitation like this and had child support modified so that there is no child support paid for those two months? To me it doesn't seem right to have to pay child support when we have him half the month and have to pay for child care and we take him on vacation every summer. BM is basically just collecting a paycheck those months.
Also keep in mind that BM
Also keep in mind that BM doesn't work (she has recently remarried and decided to be a stay at home mom to 2 kids who are in school) so she provides no financial support for SS.
My DH has to pay child
My DH has to pay child support year around even though we do have the kids 1/2 the summer. Not fair but that is the way it is setup.
I know when my SS was living
I know when my SS was living with his mom, we had him on a rotation: Tues and Thurs. one week, Tues and fri evening, Sat and Sunday, BM didn't get him back until Monday evening. EVERY summer the very ist day after school let out, we had SS until the very last minute the school began! Joint custody. We had to pay HER CS the whole summer! And ALL of everything else still! I never could understand why we had to pay her CS during the summer when we he him the WHOLE time! She just spent the money on a boob job and other things for herself!
We were told by the judge
We were told by the judge that BM still has to maintain the home even when the skids are here, so she still needs to collect. Must be nice.
I know child support is
I know child support is different in each state. Any of you guys happen to be from alabama?
What's CS like in Alabama?
What's CS like in Alabama?
Well compared to what I've
Well compared to what I've heard about other states its not that bad here. DH pays 600 a month for one child, covers his health/dental insurance, and pays half of co-pays. The fact that BM is fully capable of working but chooses to sit on her butt and ask us for more money is what pisses me off.
Yes, summer months we end
Yes, summer months we end upbspending around $3700 in two months. That's including child support, child care, and vacation. Not to mention the fact that we have to feed and entertain him while he is with us. We also have to provide a full wardrobe so he has clothes to wear. Its not like we don't have bills to pay too.
He is 6 and his mother
He is 6 and his mother refuses to send clothes with him when he comes. Even the clothes she dresses him in when we pick him up are worn out nasty clothes and flip flops because she doesn't want him wearing his good clothes to our house.
I can see this from two
I can see this from two sides.
I am a bio mom and a step mom.
the x pays me for our children.
My husband pays his x for his children.
My x still pays me during summer and my husband still pays his x during the summer.
This is why:
most states use a calculator that averages what the non custodial parent should pay based on the amount of time that the children visit with the non custodial parent. That amount is split based on the two incomes of each parent. This is montly support for the children and the homes still have to be maintained during the summer. Child support is for things like, lights, rent, housing, travel, shoes, school supplies. The custodial parent still hast to maintain all of this even when the child is visiting the other parent. Typically child support will continue through summer. As much as I would love for my DH to have to not pay the cs to his x during the summer (because he pays way more than I get from my x) I still see how this would put a burden on his kids if his x could not adequately maintain the same level of living during the summer months and would struggle or stability would not be maintained.
On the other hand, my x once told me he was going to aks the courts to stop the cs during summer. My response was: make my day; I'd love to see the judge chew you out. }:)
But I assure you, I'm not the bitter evil x and my x see's that now as we get along fine and I have not asked to have cs raised in 8 years since our divorce nor do I harrass him for extras because that takes too much energy and I have a happy life to live.
hmmm..great point made
hmmm..great point made above!..i also am a BM and a SM..we do exactly the same as you..and your soooo right..its takes much energy to file court documents and fight..even though i can honestly say MOST things in regards to a father are severely not fair. if you focus on it for too long, you can resent his kids and its really not thier fault thier mom is thier mom!..oh BTW i am in ontario..so ontario CS law is calculated monthly on the yearly gross income of the BF from the year before..wrong on many accts..but oh well..that's the law, and unless you have tons of disposable income to fight over it..no changing that fact
Thank you! I agre. I don't go
Thank you! I agre. I don't go out of my way to pis my x off and I make sure my x's fiancé likes me. That way I have an "in" to know my babies are loved when I'm not present! My hubby's x so wants me to be the evil stepmom and hates for the kids to love me. I want my kids to have a good relationship with their sm so that they grow up strong and loved by many!