Very annoying when the EX in-laws won't let go. A few months after we married the first wife's parents came to visit her and the skids. My DH's ex FIL came over every day around 10 AM and stayed until dinner time. By the end of the week I was getting kind of fond of the old guy. Seems he really didn't like his daughter (the x) any more than we did. You have to feel sorry for someone who spends their vacation visiting with their daughter's EX and his new wife.

That is plain malicious. I'm sorry they have hurt you that way. I know it must be a heartbreaking experience for you since you are trying to have your own child. Yes, your husband needs to put his big boy pants on and protect you from these vicious pigs.

Men are so stupid sometimes. He has no idea how much this bothers you. Sometimes you just have to hit them over the heard with a 2x4 to get them to understand. Tell him how this makes you feel and tell him what you expect from him should either of them ever mention such things to you again.

No, it isn’t right. EX MIL, hugging your DH is in my view a very inappropriate expression of fake sympathy. The implication being there, there dear we know that that woman isn’t able to give you any children and gosh how we love rubbing her nose in that fact. We know that she is the problem, and if it weren’t for her you and my lovely daughter would likely reconcile and you would come back to your real “home” and your real children where you belong.

Who told BM anyway? Hopefully it wasn’t your DH--because if he did that is a very large betrayal.

He should have firmly taken EX MIL’s arms off of him and said. “I don’t appreciate expressions of false caring and nothing that you have done and are doing exemplifies to me genuine concern. You are being vindictive and nothing less and please don’t pretend otherwise. I find your fake show of concern offensive.”

Problem with some men is they suck up this poisonous motherly pampering like little boys.

How did the ex etc find out about your fertility issues?

I would ignore them both and my DH for a while. If he wants those people in his life good luck to him.

If your DH told BM about the treatment, I am so sorry. After over 4 yrs he still discusses personal issues like this with her?
My DH has to have testosterone treatment for Andropause (male equiv to menopause) Without it he is like an 80 yr old ... tires easily, falls asleep, no muscle tone, loss if interest in anything. And he is in his early 50s!

Have I told anyone? No way! I think his immediate family know but there is no way I would share that with my family. It isn't embarrassing but it is very personal.

How did the ex etc find out about your fertility issues?

I would ignore them both and my DH for a while. If he wants those people in his life good luck to him.

If your DH told BM about the treatment, I am so sorry. After over 4 yrs he still discusses personal issues like this with her?
My DH has to have testosterone treatment for Andropause (male equiv to menopause) Without it he is like an 80 yr old ... tires easily, falls asleep, no muscle tone, loss if interest in anything. And he is in his early 50s!

Have I told anyone? No way! I think his immediate family know but there is no way I would share that with my family. It isn't embarrassing but it is very personal.

How did the ex etc find out about your fertility issues?

I would ignore them both and my DH for a while. If he wants those people in his life good luck to him.

If your DH told BM about the treatment, I am so sorry. After over 4 yrs he still discusses personal issues like this with her?
My DH has to have testosterone treatment for Andropause (male equiv to menopause) Without it he is like an 80 yr old ... tires easily, falls asleep, no muscle tone, loss if interest in anything. And he is in his early 50s!

Have I told anyone? No way! I think his immediate family know but there is no way I would share that with my family. It isn't embarrassing but it is very personal.