It's really weird and I would be completely annoyed at that!

I wonder if their might be any legal reason. I do not know at all.

When you get married or divorced I've found the court will ask you if you wish to change your name. In the order they will right down that it is approved for you to change your name and you do not have to pay for it.

In my divorce paperwork it stated that I wished and was granted the right to change my last name back to my maiden name. Given I had been married only 3 years and had no children it felt natural and was actually really easy.

I wonder if her options are maintain her current last name or return to the name she had before the marriage which I'm guessing would be your DH's last name?

Then again her logic of wanting to have her children's last name is not misguided as we've seen.

Many people wonder about what they should do with last names. SO has two children. One carries their mothers name and the other his. It's kind of annoying to deal with whenever we go anywhere that has waivers because they always jump to all of just having whatever last name we give first and of course there's 3 of them.

I despise his last name and refuse to take it. Nothing against him and the reason is kind of stupid but I'm concerned about what to do if we have any biological children. I want them to have mine for ease but I want them to have his because I just feel its right.

Names can be unifying things. They make you a 'team' when you share them. Maybe the kids are asking why mommy has a different name?

Seems very odd and I'd be highly annoyed.

If it's been over a decade - how old are the skids ? Why would it matter who's name they are called in school ?

It's a royal PITA when your kids have a different last name than you. I often get called "Mrs exH" by teachers and coaches because that's what the kids last name is. It's useless to correct them because they'll forget and I get tired of relaying the fact that yes I'm a divorced sinner (we live in a predominately religious area).

Unless BM looooves DH's last name then she'll likely change it when all the kids age out if she remarries again. A friend of mine kept her exH's last name (her 2nd marriage). They never had kids together but his last name went well with her first name and was great for her career, plus she didn't want to go through the hassle of changing everything.

I know a woman who was married to her first DH at 20 and was divorced a few years later with no kids. She remarried a few years later to a man she has now been married to for over 35 years. But she has kept her first DH's name for all of these decades.

She moved across country and even out of the country at one point and has never lived within 2000 miles of her ex. I have no idea why she was so obsessed with keeping his name. She wasn't known professionally or in the community by her ex's name when they divorced.

Her ex divorced her to marry a friend of hers. She was devastated by the divorce. I think part of her has never been able to let go. I know she told me one time years and years after her divorce and remarriage how sad it was that she had no contact with the ex.

After that amount of time, I find it strange, too.

With that said, I can see BM pulling this crap, purely out of spite towards me, if/when she divorces dudebro - whom she is marrying next Saturday! }:)

I went back to my maiden after I divorced my first husband (17 years marriage). It was part of the decree.

I did this. I asked my kids’ dad and his parents and sister if they would allow me to have their last name as it was my kids’ last name. They wholeheartedly supported it. They said they would always consider me family and were just fine with it. Besides. I had that last name longer than even my maiden name. Not one person minded and i was super relieved. I’ll never change my last name again, i don’t think.

As to the simplicity of it, i filled out one section of the divorce papers and it didn’t cost any extra. Had i waited and done it separately, i would have been out almost $400.

I think too many people read into the names that other people choose to use. People judge a woman if she doesn't take her husband's name upon marriage. People judge a woman if she retains her name after divorce. People judge a man if he takes his wife's name. People judge couples who take completely new names. People judge if the kids don't get the names they think they should. I find it ridiculous that people are so invested in the names other people use.

Me? I kept my name after divorce. Yes, I obtained the name when I married my ex-husband, but it was then my name to do with as I chose. I chose to keep it. Then, when I adopted my daughter, she got my name, which was the same as my ex-husband's name. Then, when I remarried, I kept my name, which was the same as my ex-husband's name.

It wasn't until my current husband adopted my adopted daughter, and my kids with ex-husband were grown, that I changed my name to my current husband's name. And it was a pain in the a$$.

When I divorced, I kept his name so I’d have the same as my kids.

When I remarried, I was not going to change my last name to hubbys because I wanted to match my kids....but it was really important to him that I take his. We almost got married in the 80’s and he always dreayof me having his name.

So I changed it,

Now my daughter is married and took his name. So....I would no longer go back to my ex’s name.

It’s funny....my son, daughter and I all have different last names,

Ew... I would be bugged... But the Skids BM I psycho and high conflict...

BM still signs things with DH’s last name (she legally changed hers back) and that confuses me... Let alone her changing her name back to DH’s...

Keep us updated!

My mom did this. LOL. Even though she was with my SF for many years they were only married for a little over a year (because of his drug addiction). Because he had issues with drugs, she no longer wanted to be associated with SF's last name. She also had my dad's last name for longer then her own maiden name. She wanted the same last name as my sister and I. And if I am remembering correctly, it was easier (or cheaper?) for her to go back to her previous last name then her maiden name.

I'm curious what BM will do if she ever divorces her current DH. They have technically been married for 3 years but have been separated for the majority of that time and she has a boyfriend. So if she divorces her DH and doesn't marry her BF, I wonder if she will go back to DH's last name, because that has been her last name for most of her life.

She is totally doing it to create some type of drama or something. My mom kept my Bio-dad's name for years after they divorced. She changed it to my step-dad's name when they got married. Sometimes people thought my last name was the same as hers after she married my stepdad. It never bothered me I was a teenager and did not care.

Sometimes my mom was still referred to as my last name as when I was younger because people just assumed. She didn't care. I am sure your skids really do not care that much. Sounds like she is up to something. Who really wants to go through all that work of changing their name if they really do not have to. Hell I told SO the other day I might just keep my maiden name so I do not have to go through all the trouble of changing it. He gave me the oddest look. I laughed and said I will change it as SS wants us all to have the same last name and I really do not care that much.

Be on alert is sounds shady.

My DH's EX still goes by his last name. At this point, with the girls grown up, it doesn't really need to be for THAT reason any more. I think she didn't like to highlight the fact that her name would have been different than her kids while they were younger.

Now, probably it's that she has used it so long it's "just her name".

There was a time that it was mildly annoying she insisted on keeping my husband's last name.. but I don't give her much thought these days.

When I got divorced from my ex, I kept his last name. And we didn't have any kids. I did it for two reasons.... a. I was lazy and couldn't be bothered to deal with the DMV, credit cards etc. b. We had been married for 10 years, so professionally, that is the name that everyone knew me by.. and again I just couldn't be bothered.

and in other news, I am soooooooo freaking thankful that DH wasn't dumb enough to marry either BM and I don't have to ever worry about those skanks having his last name.

BM2 has never legally changed her last name so she still has DH's, which is highly annoying. Though on Fakebook, she changed it several years ago to her maiden name. On DH's birthday no less and announced it to him via text. Talk about never moving on and being a GUBM.

So, now, when I write out her name and address for a card from SS...I always address it as MISS Devil DHLastName. Just because I know that the Ms. part annoys her. She still whines to this day about how Mr Cyprus refuses to marry her }:)