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Update from my step world

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Submitted by over step on Mon, 01/18/2016 - 11:30am

Just thought I'd put together an update since I haven't posted anything for a while (just been lurking about).

1. Puke(SD16) has not visited since before Christmas. Her next scheduled visit is next weekend but we'll see. She has a new boyfriend so getting her to come will be even more difficult. DH is preparing himself for when she does stop coming as he feels it will happen soon. Thought I was going to be stuck with her for a week this week but thankfully the weather put a stop to that.

2. I know very little about what is going on with Puke as DH does not share much with me which doesn't bother me in the least. I actually prefer it. This is what I do know…She has a boyfriend (from what I understand he is 19) & she has pretty "dropped out" of online school (saw that coming). BM told DH that Puke is not eating very much and has lost weight since Christmas (I knew that way before that). She snacks and won't eat "real" food. A fast/junk food junkie.

3. I have started focusing more on me. Doing things that make me happy & feel good. Taking better care of myself. Not letting the drama consume me. I feel like kicking Puke out of my bathroom was the best move I could have made. I don't have that looming over me in wake of a visit.

4. DH and I are making our relationship a priority. We will be having scheduled date nights each month where we put away our phones go out and just focus on each other. We haven't been able to do this because Puke would always interrupt with some drama or decide she wants to be here at that time. I made it clear to DH that when we schedule something well in advance and around her visits, that we will not be cancelling or rescheduling our plans. DH was completely on board with this.

Nothing real exciting but I'm not complaining. Just trying to keep myself in a positive mindset.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Mon, 01/18/2016 - 1:57pm

*evil grin* what does she do with the puppy when she's off w/ her boyfriend? }:)

very nice to hear of u and dh making your marriage a priority. u'll have to keep us updated on how that actually works out!!! dh and i have discussed many times a monthly date nite or something, but life gets in the way Sad i hope it all works out well for ya's!

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Submitted by over step on Mon, 01/18/2016 - 2:12pm

DH and I took popsicle sticks, wrote an activity on several, and then put them in a jar. We will take turns picking one at random and then that person plans it. It's nothing exciting. Go for a scenic drive is our first one that DH picked and is planning. He is really excited about it. Others are like go to a ball game or for a hike or take a cooking class. It's things one or the other or both would like to do. Then we have a meal out some time that day or night.

Our 5 year wedding anniversary is this year and I told DH we should go away for a weekend.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Mon, 01/18/2016 - 2:39pm

aw, sweet! remember tho', my dh is Sir Pukes-a-Lot, as dubbed by sally (an update to her referring to him as sir breaks-a-lot!) it's hard for him to leave the house for much longer than it takes to do the school runs or go to a dr's appt. he's pretty well house-bound until they figure SOMEthing out!!!

also the kids are pretty active so things come up like games/practices and what-not. which is fine, just part of life. lurch will have his license soon and will be able to pretty much come and go as he needs to.

things have been stressful at work too, so i honestly dont really feel like doing much of anything myself!!!

we used to check out salvage businesses, mosey around harbor freight, home depot or the junkyards or pawn shops, maybe starting off with waffle house or cracker barrel. we always took a weekend away for our anni, but just couldnt swing it this past year. lately neither one of us feels like doing anything and we're content to just sit on our asses next to eachother! Smile (well, aside from his frequent trips to the bathroom... lol!)