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Submitted by Vanessa68 on Wed, 08/05/2015 - 12:02pm

Hi Everyone,

I hope you are all enjoying your summer.
I am still dating the new guy with kids…things are going well, he doesn't talk about his ex, nearly as much as the other. It seems his kids are important to him, but not his life does not revolve around them. His mom helps him a lot. (Italian) lol

Like I said before we have a lot of friends in common and share a common interest. We have been out on a few dates, talk a lot. This Saturday is my birthday and he is taking me out.

Dark hair/eyes, tall…..DAm…lol

Ok.. lets here it … please, feels like i am getting to excited…haha

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Submitted by mommaneedstovent on Wed, 08/05/2015 - 1:05pm

Enjoy your time alone with him without the kiddos. Soon enough you will see how much his life really does revolve around his kids and of course you'll be nice and hooked by then.

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Submitted by Vanessa68 on Wed, 08/05/2015 - 3:04pm

Thanks for the comments…:)

No we haven't slept together. No sleepovers..ect.

Yes the mamas boy, aren't all italian men attached to mommy….haha

I am keeping cool, no talks, no…where is this going? Trying to keep my emotions in check. I think I am keeping cool, because of the amount of friends we know. I know that I am not ready to sleep with him, I did tell him I wouldn't waste 8 months to meet his kids. That hasn't come up again.. We are having a lot of fun..

I will check in after my Birthday….let you know what happened….:)

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Submitted by DarkStar on Wed, 08/05/2015 - 4:41pm

Based on your previous blogs, you kind of remind me of a friend of mine who absolutely CANNOT be without a man in her life. The ink wasn't dry on her divorce papers before she was setting up profiles on online dating sites.

I asked her why she didn't relax and enjoy some alone time before jumping into dating again. The response?
"Oh, I can't be alone. That's too sad."

I think it's sad that she feels that life is sad and incomplete without a man in her life. And any future relationship she has is doomed because she cannot love HERSELF enough.

Just my 2 cents worth......

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Submitted by timemachine on Wed, 08/05/2015 - 4:47pm

Happy Birthday!

I got lucky as a step mom and you can too in the future if you choose. Please do yourself a favor and read up on custody battles, divorce and books on step mom struggles. You will find those resources very helpful!!

Always take the high road when you run into problems with his ex or the kids. I didn't hear from my DH's ex until a year into our relationship.

"mommaneedstovent" is right though, I find out all the drama after I am in love with my guy.

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Submitted by ChiefGrownup on Thu, 08/06/2015 - 11:43am

I don't read her as desperate. She wanted to sit out and grieve her other relationship but this guy pounced at the opportunity to date her.

There's nothing wrong with wanting a partner. It does not mean that you can't be alone or consider yourself sad without one. Grieving an old relationship is not necessarily always the right way to go. Sometimes it's just better to get back on the horse. Be laughing instead of crying. At different times in our lives we can try both methods. One doesn't make us pathetic and the other virtuous. Just different times of life, different moods, different circumstances.