Am I being petty?
I haven't been feeling well all day. I'm sitting here watching tv in the den by myself while FDH is curled up on the sofa in the other room with SD10. It's 10:45 at night.
They've been together all day and I was kind of hoping he would send her up to her room around 10pm and come spend some time with me...I guess not.
I'm upset, but feel like I shouldn't be since I get to spend every evening with him and she's only here 50% of the time.
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No I don't think so I would
No I don't think so I would feel the same way I mean it's late enough for her to be in bed
Thanks for the replies. I
Thanks for the replies.
I think he lets her stay up so late on weekend nights hoping she'll sleep later the next day.
But, I agree that after a certain time it should be about the adults.
He's finally told her not to
He's finally told her not to wake him before 8am, but sometimes he doesn't get to sleep before 1 or 2am (his fault). She rarely sleeps past 7am, even on weekends, so will have to entertain herself for at least an hour. He doesn't feel she should have to do this for longer than that. She's an only child.
Oh, yes. I remember those
Oh, yes. I remember those days. We just had the switch, SD 11 now will sleep till 9 or later. Much better than being woken up at 6:30.
Yeah, I figure it will change
Yeah, I figure it will change soon.
I agree with you completely,
I agree with you completely, it's very frustrating how concerned he is with her being happy every minute that she's here.
Sadly, not much will ever change in the way he parents her. He's afraid that if she's not always happy here, she may not want to come over as much when she's old enough to have a choice.
Both mom and dad coddle her, and it's mainly because they don't want her to love one of them more than the other. It's ridiculous.
I guess that's the thing, he
I guess that's the thing, he functions on a lack of sleep all week and tries to get a little more on the weekends.
I do not tolerate DH and
I do not tolerate DH and skids cuddling well. Honestly I don't tolerate it very well when he hangs out with SD alone period, not all the skids just one in particular for some reason. I suck it up when I have to, but I DEFINATELY would not tolerate it at 10:45 at night. Cuddling at such a late hour while I'm sitting alone in the next room. No way. not petty at all, a woman's gotta be the queen of her castle.
I wanted to stomp in there
I wanted to stomp in there and say,"O.k., that's enough lovey dovey for tonight!! It's late!"
But I couldn't. She's not my daughter, so it's not my call.
He would just think I'm being
He would just think I'm being silly.
Or he would go off about not getting to be with her every night...I don't know, there'd be some excuse... :sick:
LOL!
LOL!
She has all those things in
She has all those things in her room, she just can't go too long without being entertained, and FDH doesn't think it's fair to make her.
Just another case of guilty daddy I guess.
50% is a lot when you
50% is a lot when you consider the way your dh is doing it, you only have a husband 50% of the time. will you forever pay the price for his divorce or will you begin showing your dh that he has responsibilities to you IN ADDITION to those he has to his daughter. tell him to re-read his marriage vows. if he wants to only be a daddy when his daughter is there and forget that he is also a husband, he should have stayed single and not tied an unsuspecting woman down to half a man.
I wish there were "like"
I wish there were "like" buttons on these posts, cause I like this one. Just because their daughter is present doesn't mean they should stop acting like a husband.
Maybe that's why I'm not in
Maybe that's why I'm not in any rush to marry him.
they leave now. you may not
they leave now. you may not be married to him yet, but trust me the longer you're in it the harder it is to leave...
I'd be getting dressed &
I'd be getting dressed & going clubbing... If he wants you in his comfort zone; he should be doing something to keep you there
Thanks, and I wish I could
Thanks, and I wish I could have gone out last night!
haha great advice!!! you
haha great advice!!! you want couples time, he would rather kid time. Well then, you can still have your fun with out him. you're not his lady in waiting.
Thanks for everyone's
Thanks for everyone's support. It makes a difference just to be able to vent and have some validation from others who understand.
Oh, I just had to post this
Oh, I just had to post this because it just happened.
O/T - FDH wanted to talk to SD about soccer so she goes into the living room and says, "FAMILY MEETING, JUST ME AND MY DAD!". Oh brother...
Lol!, yes she can be. It
Lol!, yes she can be.
It didn't even phase him. These guys don't always catch on to everything.