You know I think us step folks pack on a extra layer on stess. Especially if you have a blended family, dis functional BM and PAS stepkid. BM has told DH that we get to have SD 15 ( yes aren't we so lucky ) on Monday -Tuesday and BM will get SD early Christmas morning . Ok cool no worries there I guess (in laws celebrate on Christmas Eve, us as a family open gifts Christmas morning ) then she ask if we are doing anything for New Year's Eve. I wanna say " um excuse me? Why does it matter, New Year's Eve is during the week " why is it her business what we are doing if it's not DH weekend to get SD. I'm sure she is fishing because per usual BM will pull the " I'm not doing anything so SD will have more fun with you guys" which is wrong, she means to say " if you are going to SIL party then SD will wanna tag along" SD has no desire to see us , she only want to go to SIL house. SD pulled this last year . Last year it was DH weekend to have SD and both her and BM kept asking about our New Year's Eve plans and DH was like what does it matter it's my weekend . BM said that SD will only come if we go to SIL party . DH told them that we prob won't go but aren't sure . SD didn't come and we did in fact go to SIL house lol. So here we are again but this time NYE is during the week so unless BM plans on driving SD all the way here ( almost 3 hour drive) DH sure as hell is not gonna drive over there during the week. Just venting . I have had enough of BM per usual on every holiday she finds ways to make thing stressful and at the same time trying to dig at DH. Don't even get me started on the stupid Christmas list that she keeps on sending and resending to DH