Simplest way to get rid of stepkids is to get rid of your partner.. lol.  They are his dingleberries.

He is the parent.. he should be concerned with them maturing.. with them preparing themselves for a fulfilling life.. why isn't he?

If he isn't.. it's likely your partner is the problem.. they are just the symptom.

If they have no mother.. you won't be able to get them out earlier than the legal age of 18 I don't think.. and I get wanting to.. but it can't happen.. unless your partner leaves you.. or you kick them all out.

you should probably be asking your partner how he thinks his kids are going to go on with their life.

I did just skim over a few of your older posts.  So.. three years ago people told you.l you were not stuck.. you could leave and have a life without the stress of his kids..   You know that there is no easy solution.. you are going to have to pick the devil you want to live with..   Being passive aggressive to his kids has probably not served your relationship with them well over the years.. that is not modeling mature behavior by you either.. so I'm guessing nothing much is likely to change.. because it's been 3 years.. zero progress.. have you tried any counseling? have you tried asking your SO to step up and parent his kids?  Have YOU put in an effort to find some common ground with his sons?  

IDK.. it's not an easy life.. but it's not a life sentence.. if it isn't working for you.. you have options.

one thing I've learned here is that stepkids tend to scurry away, like bugs when the lights go on, when rules are set and enforced. 

He's doing nothing now. He will be doing nothing for the rest of his life.  These kids are going nowhere ,   Going somewhere means getting that terrible thing a JOB. and actually showing up and working.  Not going to happen.  Only hope is they will find a woman and move in with her parents. 

What do you mean there is no "Moms house".

Did she pass away? Homeless---?

Are you married? Or living together?

Move yourself out if the situation is that bad. Let the minor children continue to live with their father until they are at least 18 and finished with high school. You can try to maintain your relationship with their father if you want, or you can move on and find a better situation for yourself. 

ETA: this is the only solution that you have 100% control over and could do today if you really wanted.

It would require a lot from YOU to get him through exams??? It should require a lot from your partner. SMH

Partner and skids should live in one place and you should live in another. You and partner can live together once the skids launch.

The issue is your spouse not your step son. If your significant other knew how to parent there wouldn't be an issue. 

From experience in this case, you have two choices.
One that will work 100% is you need to leave your partner.

The second one is enforce rules in the hopes that they will leave on their own. Which most likely they will.

in my circumstance, I unfortunately had to do both.

but because of the toxicity of my former SD, it worked out for the better.

Long story short when she was 20 and cracked out her father somehow agreed for her to live with us. Said she would get a job and turn her life around.

Of course that didn't happen. All she did was smoke weed drink vodka, and fuck her boyfriend in our back then toddler sons playroom.

I had that girl out in three weeks. Do you know what I did? I cut off the Wi-Fi when nobody was home except for her.

no Netflix and chill for her

but in my case, my son's father's family gave me such grief for doing this. It eventually led to my son's father and I splitting up. My son is 14 and he hasn't seen my son's father's family in like 12 years. He is close with his father, even though I have custody so that's good.

but yeah, instead of realizing I didn't want a drug addict who is drunk all the time and leaving condoms everywhere in my child's playroom instead, I was forced to leave my partner..

I know extreme, but at the end of the day, I'm just trying to tell you it's really the only two choices you have. Because at the end of the day, the step kid is always going to come first.

I hate adding this last part to this forum, especially since it's for stepmoms, but since my kid is technically a step kid (kind of. He's not allowed around his stepmother legally)  now since his father remarried, let's just say because the stepmom was so bad to my son, They're now getting divorced.
 

My point is your stepson is always going to come first to your hubby. You can kick him out, but it's going to be a temporary solution. If you want happiness, you have to leave.

I'm a stranger on the Internet, so I mean my opinion is just one of many. But just wanted to share my personal experience and hope that I can help at least a little bit.

Cheers! Big hugs!! You got this!

Was take advice from others on here and ask DH why he din't love his kids enough to parent them. When I didn't have children and because of my own upbringing, I thought a man just being there for his kids was such a big deal. But as time went by and it was obvious the boys needed discipline, DH just wasn't good at that part of parenting, which I've now come to understand is a huge part in how they end up as adults. 

I helped DH with SS24 and he moved out at 22, but when I saw SS19 was going the same way, I told DH flat out I couldn't deal with him past 18, especially if he wanted to be gone (my SO retired from his first career and chose long haul trucking for the second). It helped that the house is under my name. 

So, after SS pretending he was going to school, coming home early, failing classes as usual but never taking accountability, senior year came. This was when he decided, 2 months before graduating, that school was too much and dropped out. DH allowed him to. I told DH either he takes him trucking with him, or he had to go to a Job corp, which helps with earning a GED and trade. SS tried everything to ruin this, tried to resist. But finally left. 

When that happened, I went to very extreme measures and moved out. I rented my house out and downsized to a studio apartment very close to DD's school. I knew SS would quit/get kicked out and I didn't want him to ask me to come back, or for DH to guilt me into taking him back. Sure as shit, he got kicked out 4 months later for possession of marijuana (though DH was absolutely SURE that SS wasn't smoking because SS told him he didn't lol). 

Never will I ever live with my stepsons again, not unless they become decent human beings. And it looks like that isn't happening so.....

Good luck to you and hope you can free yourself when your SS is 18. I would recommend Rags Burning Platform, or just forcing him after high school to choose a trade school, college or military. I wouldn't recommend a full time job straight out of high school only because with just a HS diploma, it would be difficult to find a good paying job, which means it would be harder for him to move out.