What could have happened?
Sorry if I am being bothersome but I have to say things on here because I have no one to turn too. SO siad the reason that SS is having problems with his entire group friends is that one of them paid the others to not talk to him. I said nothing because you know, it doesn't matter . But I am always curious. I would have asked step son again what actually happened and if he stuck with that story I would be calling the boys parents who paid the other kids.No one would be doing that to my child and me staying silent about it. Isn't this borderline bullying?
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If it's true, it's certainly
If it's true, it's certainly bullying. But is it true? Does SS usually make stuff up?
He has actually bullied
He has actually bullied someone before. I wouldn't put it past him to be lying because BM and SO were wondering why he didn't have plans with his regular freinds for two weekends . If he has done something to cause he isn't going to let them know. But if it is true I would definitely be doing something about it as a parent. All they are doing is babying him even more then they normally do. And honestly I really don't care anymore I just wanted to see what people thought.
Sounds like SS is a little
Sounds like SS is a little jerk and his former friends are ostracizing him for it. If he is a jerk at home and a jerk to his dad, chances are he's a jerk to the other kids. If SS is a good, nice kid, and these others are jerks, he would be better off focusing on school and sports and finding new friends. The fact that it's a big drama with SS, DH, and BM makes me think SS isn't taking accountability for something.
There have been a few times when my teen was having interpersonal issues at school. After much discussion, we talked about what my kid could do differently. I had to gently tell them that their actions and words played a part in the conflict. They changed their ways and have not had any issues this year.
ETA i bet SS really doesn't know what he did wrong. It doesn't sound like his parents taught him very well as far as taking accountability, etc.
Sounds like a lie. Why would
Sounds like a lie. Why would a whole group of his friends agree to that and which friend has enough money to bribe all the others?
Nope, not buying it. I just
Nope, not buying it. I just can't imagine a teen wasting his money on bribes to freeze someone out - there are so many other possibilities to achieve that goal without wasting a penny. I reckon the kid plays a superior PITA at school because that's his norm and he truly believes he's superior and the other kids just can't stand him anymore.
SO brought it up again and
SO brought it up again and said more had to have went on. That SS will just have to find different friends and he feels bad for SS. SO said there is nothing he can do but be there for him even if SS is to blame.I can't believe how much non -parenting there is.
I don't think for a minute
I don't think for a minute that a kid literally PAID the other kids to ice him out.
BUT.. I do think that if that other kid is well off.. he may be enticing those kids to hang with him and excluding SS.. come to my house.. we will ride the gokarts and order sushi (or whatever expensive thing the kids are into).. your SS doesn't get the invite.. so technically.. the kid is "buying" friends..
But.. you know the reality is your SS is a bit of a turdpiece.. so it's likely his attitude has made it easy for his friends to ditch him.
It sounds unbelievable and
It sounds unbelievable and presumptuous from your SS to think that the only way his friends stopped speaking to him is through payment!rofl thats some funny stuff!
Listen the boys dont want to talk to him because he is an Ahole or maybe they are the aholes but the fact is they dont care for him so instead of forcing things or getting the child the attention they want, just ignore it. He can make other friends or he can remain alone and learn to like it, he is old enough to handle this without having parents get involved in childs play
SS had no friends to hang out
SS had no friends to hang out with over the weekend. There is so much going on here that isn't being said.