Happy BECsgiving!
Another poster talked about this a few years back and it really speaks to me today.
BEC = Bitch Eating Crackers: When you dislike someone so much that anything they do, no matter how minor or inoffensive, annoys you beyond any rational level - exemplified by the sentence "look at that bitch eating crackers like she owns the place".
"I can't help it she just drives me nuts, she's my Bitch Eating Crackers."
To all of you having to deal with your BECs this holiday season (you might even be in a house full of BECs!), i wish you strength and patience. Please wish me the same.
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Got some BEC over here
Got some BEC over here starting last night and if I wasn't half asleep (and if I wasn't leaving this dude anyways) it would have gotten properly handled
His phone was BLOWING UP last night around 11:30pm
I thought it was his mistress (which if he had a mistress I'd be glad she's taking him off my hands for the weekend but like call earlier sheesh) but in my mind I'm thinking no one is that desperate for his attention accept his meddling conniving breeder and those no-home training kids.
Thank heavens he was asleep and didn't wake up for that mess and thank goodness for them I was half asleep because I was about to answer and tell them to stop calling after 8pm (and go to bed) if it's non emergency. Since both of these people are too p*ssy to raise their kids properly.
His d*mb ass decided to tell his kids NO to coming over last night (as he rightfully should have just said "look kids I will pick you up Thursday at 1pm and take you back at Thursday at 4pm ... that is final!) and I guess the impatient breeder is chomping at the bits ready to get rid of them so she's being mean to them so they can pressure him to pickup earlier.
His reason for saying no is he had to shop for a cake he was baking (and spend time to bake the cake) which he knew his needy kids would be begging to shop for them, cook for them, and he wouldn't get anything accomplished
And when I get off work and PMSing last thing I want to do is take care of some messy loud needy disrespectful kids.
Going to pour up liquor and self medicate so my patience and strength will endure this day.
May the force (and alcohol)
May the force (and alcohol) be with you today!
When you dislike someone so
Why is this me every weekend???
Feral Forgers SD24 & One of the Nieces
They will be that for me, and thankfully I will be heading off away from them to another dinner.
thankfully I will be heading
SAME! ... today I eavesdropped and heard this a$$cruncher tell his ferals and breeder that he'd drop off at 8pm
I'm creating any excuse to exit 1/10 of the way through.
SO's son (13) is getting
SO's son (13) is getting dropped off today after a week at BM's. SD27 and her boyfriend are visiting from out of state and they brought a cat but no litter so I had to give them mine, she just told SO she's staying at his house 4 days instead of the 2 that she said before, and she called SO asking him to cook her a balanced meal because the one store she and BF tried was closed. And i just heard SO calling his friend asking if the pool hall is open today. I'm baking 3 pies for his family's dinner at his sister's tonight (my family is doing it on Saturday.) I looked at him and shook my head and said "really? The pool hall on Thanksgiving? I'm disappointed." He said "What am i supposed to do until dinnertime?" Idk, hang out with your son who's been at BM's for a week or your daughter who is visiting from 9 hours away? The good news is i will be at my house baking and my son is home from college. Too busy to go to SO's house.
My BEC isn't here for
My BEC isn't here for Thanksgiving, fortunately. But... the sh- storm is coming and the barometer is dropping. She will be here for 8 freaking days around Christmas. So this is the calm before the storm. Then the hand-out, money-grubbing will start.
8 days? Yeesh. What is it
8 days? Yeesh. What is it they say about fish and houseguests? I think it's that both go bad after 3 days or something like that.
Lol. There is a reason why we stay in a hotel in DW's home town.
Not so much that we wear out our welcome. But because the badmouthing the other parts of the IL clan amps up the longer we are in each of their homes. So, the max is about 6hrs then we retreat to our own space ad prep for the next day.
So i spent an hour with SD27
So i spent an hour with SD27 and she did not act offensively. Turns out she's in a special intensive mental health program that she goes to every day, the whole day i think. Last time i saw her i was sure she was fking with me by the way she acted, since SO said she didn't act that way before. Hopefully she's finally getting the help she needs. Maybe her previous behavior wasn't directed at running me off like i thought. Hmmm.
Yep, SDiablas 24&26 are my
Yep, SDiablas 24&26 are my BEC's. I realize that they bug the sh*t out of me like none other because I have been around them behind closed doors more than other family or friends to witness their horrid behaviors.
I keep my mouth shut and just smile and nod when anyone asks DH about them. It is just as well that nobody thinks to ask how I feel about them? I find that if I say anything negative the family will swoop in to defend them and tell me some nauseatingly cute story about something they did when they were 3 years old and presumably still salvageable. They may have been cute as toddlers but they are BEC now. Now that I keep all thoughts about them to myself I find that distant relatives open up more about rude behavior they have witnessed from SD's themselves and DH is also more open telling his family how difficult they have been for him to handle. I enjoy those stories quite a bit and I love to see that the mask is coming down but I still don't say a word and do my best to keep a poker face.